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writes:I'm really at a stand still at this point in my life and I just need some advice.I started seeing a guy about a year ago, this is the first man i've been with in eight years.We are not in a relationship but we do or I should say did things as if we were in one.I know for sure it's feelings and emotions involved on both parts.Now here comes the kicker I just found out that i'm pregnant.I have shared this news with him ( i'm keeping my baby)I expressed to him that he dosen't have to feel obligated to do anything, it's his choice if he wants to be there or not.Since I shared this news with him everything has changed he's not the same.I understand this is a shocker cause it shocked the hell out of me. He asked me what kind of relationship I wanted from him as did I.I have yet to hear a response from him.I mean how could he ask me that and he can't even be a friend to me now.I just want to know what should I do in a situation like this.My first priority is me and my child,but I want my friend back and possibly more.I know that he'll be there for his child, but we should be coming up with a soultion together. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): If he doesn't want to be involved, you may be better off letting it go at that. It's hard enough raising a child without having partner issues.Since you decided to keep the baby I hope you don't plan to force him to pay child support.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 July 2009):
 Well, I think you need to focus on you and the baby. He has already told you that he doesn't want part of it. He will still have to pay child support. Other then that, as much as it sucks you CAN'T make him a Daddy. Any Tom' Dick or Harry can Father a child, not all can be a Daddy.
I'm sorry he is being a jerk. I think he is forgetting it takes 2 to tango, and two to make a baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): most guys run away from pregnancy the thing is to let this guy know that you are upset that he has gone and left you to deal with the pregnancy alone..no decent guy should so this and express your feelings and stand your ground saying that he should be there for HIS child and that whether he likes it or not you both have sex and have to deal with the consequences of this.
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