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writes:I am 14 and I have been having lots of sex but with my boyfriend, we tried diffrent things and I like them all. I found out I was pregnant, I don't know how to tell anyone, I feel so sick no one knows but me. How do I tell people oh and I think I love oral sex what do I do?
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reader, JUSTHANNAH  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 I was stunned when my son and his girlfriend told me she was pregnant even though they were both almst 16. I didnt like to think that they were thinking about sex let alone having sex. They were havng safe sex the condom split. But that did not make me feel an better knowing they were still having sex at such a young age. People said she had an easy way of getting a place of her own and live off benefits but they couldnt have been further from the truth. She didnt get benefit until after the baby was born and only stayed on benefit for a few weeks then she took two Jobs plus college. She stayed between my home and her parents home until her little boy was 5 Finished her education and is now a Nurse training to be a Midwife. Now has her own car and own house. It was difficult at first not being entitled to any benefit, meant she could not even get maternity grant to buy the baby things but between us we managed .
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reader, JUSTHANNAH +, writes (10 August 2007):
Hi HunJust thought I would ask how you are? Have you managed to tell your mum yet? Its not the end of the world If you decide to have your baby you can still stay in school and then put your baby in a Creche' and go to college and when you have finished your education you can still get a Job if your family help look after the baby while you work .If not you should be able to get help to pay for child care. Just because your having a baby doesnt mean you have to rely on state benefits. On the other hand if you do not want to go ahead with the pregnancy you still need advice and sooner rather than later. What ever you decide sweetheart good luck and dont be bullied into anything but please think long and hard and go to speak to your GP Im sure even your GP can help you tell your mum if you are scared and help you get in touch with the Pregnancy advisory .
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reader, JUSTHANNAH +, writes (9 August 2007):
Sweetheart have you got someone that will talk to your parents with you? Please dont think its the end of the world. My Son & is Girlfriend were both 15 (months off being 16) it as my birthday e had quite a few friends round.My son & his girlfriend came in both in tears.The last thing I expected them to say was she was Pregnant. Anyway my husband (ex hubby now) Went with my son to take her home & he told her Parents .Yes they were Angry & locked her in her room at first .He dad even booked he in for an Abortion .Thankfully even though she was 15 he had no rights tryin to force her to have an abortion..Things eventually were sorted out .She stayed in education had her baby .Went to college put the baby in college creche'
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reader, mrsdrown +, writes (9 August 2007):
 hey im going through the same thing except my boyfriend and his dad knows. i dont know exactly how to tell my mom but some people have suggested writing a letter, telling her over dinner, or just sitting her down and telling her. maybe you could do one of these things. if you want to talk im here for you. good luck and much luv to ya gurl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): why do people have sex underaged when they know it leads to this???? and some1 better reply to me coz im more confused than you. anyways my advice is tell parents, doctor, the guy that got u pregnant and anyone else who can help you. and next time use your brain and not your..other stuff...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): Honey 14 is waaaaay too young to be a mom. You are just beginning the best years of your life... I beg of you please don't ruin them with the responsibility of being a parent. Having a kid is a wonderful thing for someday, but not now. I suggest you think about it long and hard before you decide to have it... remember, babies may grow up, but once you give birth you will be a mother everyday for the rest of your life!
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (3 August 2007):
 I don't think your love of oral sex is a priority right now...sorting out the pregnancy and how you feel about that is definitely the focus. Firstly, you should tell your partner and your parents. Ok, that is tough but they need to know. You need to see a doctor to have the pregnancy confirmed, start taking folic acid supplements daily and see a midwife who can put you in touch with a teen pregnancy support group. I am not going to tell you to keep the baby or have a termination as that is a personal decision but 14 is awfully young to be parenting and you need professional help to make the right decision for you. If you keep the baby, you also need to tell your school for health&safety reasons and so they can make plans for your education while you are having the baby and afterwards. Whether you keep the baby or not, you need to think about contraception in the future. If you have unprotected sex you can see what happens and it will happen again in the future if you don't get it sorted out.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (3 August 2007):
 I was petrified of what my family would say when I found out I was pregnant. I thought my guy would do a bunk and my family would disown me. It didn't happen.
Due to my partner living 80 odd miles from me I had to tell him over the phone. I just blurted out that I was pregnant and that was that. My mum and dad I sat down separately (they are divorced) and told them. I made sure there was nobody about who could disturb us and just had a talk with them about me being pregnant and what I wanted to do. It wasn't easy but it's something I realised I would have to do seen as I had decided to keep my baby. I would go and see your doctor who can put you in touch with a midwife and talk you through what you want to do and stuff.
The fact you love oral is nothing to worry about. A lot of people love oral sex.
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reader, vickiii07 +, writes (3 August 2007):
 Theres nothing worng in loving oral sex thats a personal thing to you.
now go to the doctor tell him your pregnant you really need help and support.tell your bf ask him what does he want you to do then think what you to do !!
Dont let him push you into anything though!!!
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