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writes:Been seeing a man for about a month, we work for the same company but not in the same property meaning we do not physically see each other at work a lot at all. Anyway, I found out that despite what he told me, he is married since it was announced that his father in law had died. He's been distant the past few days when he was always heavy into communication but I did not push at all. I learned he was married this morning and I went to sleep once home. Felt happy that we never had sex and felt bad that I was thinking this when someone had passed away. He called twice and texted me a message about his dealing with a family situation and to value life and my family. I texted back, take care and be well. I felt mean. I meant no sarcasm cause losing people is terribly hard, but all the same I want nothing to do with him anymore. How do I go about this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2015): Use that as a huge learning lesson.
Do a background check on the guys you date. Some guys will do or say anything to get a girl in bed.
I'm not above snooping given the times we live in.
KNOW who you are dating.
Good for you that you didn't get involved with this cheater.
Honeypie is right on the money with her advice!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (6 April 2015):
 I totally agree with Honeypie! GOOD that you didn't sleep with him! He's married, and therefore ending it with him is the right thing to do. He's a liar who hid his marriage from you.
You can easily do better. I'm just glad you dodged a huge bullet!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 April 2015):
 Tell him/text him. I'm sorry for your loss, but do not contact me ever again, as I want NOTHING to do with you.
Then block and delete his number.
It's NOT being mean, it's BEING honest. He may not "appreciate" the honesty, liars seldom do, but who cares?
And then, YOU need to NOT beat yourself up for believe him. Like you said, Be thankful you didn't waste any more of your time an emotions.
Being HAPPY that you hadn't slept with him yet had NOTHING to do with the death of his FIL. So go ahead be glad you didn't sleep with him.
You have done nothing wrong.
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