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writes:where to start i am a 41 yr old single mother with 2 boys been on my own now for 7 years . i went out with a friend of mine on a saturday night ended up in a night club . i met this gentleman who i was attracted to instantly . we ended up going home and having sex . next morning exchanged phone numbers . i was really excited when he texted me . asked if he would like to come over so he did .then his phone kept ringigng and text messages where coming through then he told me it was his wife and explained everything to me she had been having an affair with a turkish fella since last september and that they had been married for 20 yrs. and he had been seeing an other woman from a dating site for 3 weeks but didnt like her and ended it with her . his wife was still living with him till she had found some where else to live so lots of things when off in the 3 months we where together he even told me that he had slept with his wife while we where together but i had fell in love with him and he with me and we got through a lot of things he has ended it with me 4 time via a text message . he says he is still in love with his wife and needs time to get over her . she has now moved out but will would not let us get on with ourlifes together wants him then her fella who she is having an affair with . so i am devastated and dont feel like carrying on with this life
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reader, tenko +, writes (6 May 2008):
tenko is verified as being by the original poster of the question thankyou for all yor advice i am feeling much better about my life and what i am going to do with it already .
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): she never claimed to be from India. I think this guy is confused but he does love his wife still, so there is no future for you right now. I am sure he (at least at one point) really did like you a lot but now he is feeling that he can't give you 100% of himself until he can let go of his wife. I would move on with the understanding that if he gets over her he can contact you. At that point you could have found someone else though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): You should not be so tough on yourself ! You had good intentions I think ...but this Man had not really emotionally split from his wife and therefore you feel used . Try taking a breather , and stepping back from this situation . You deserve to know where you stand with this guy ....so ask him in a calm rational way maybe over a coffee . If he claims to still be confused about his feelings , make it clear that you will not pursue a sexual relationship with him .Stay in control , and state that the existing love triangle will not work. Being used would only destroy your self - esteem . If he cannot see your point of view , you have to put this down to a hurtful experience and move on . You will find someone who appreciate that you don't deserve to be hurt and who genuinely cares for you. Good luck!
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reader, siren_guj  +, writes (5 May 2008):
I am sure that you are not from India. In India single women never try to marry a person who loves his wife. Your friend and with whom you like to sleep is a CHEATER, He likes your body not you, this is for temporary period. When you cross 45 he will find another women. such person can not be caring for ther beloved. You by nature person with emotions and in need for potection. At 41 you should cultivate the sense of smell the person motto for relations. If mooto is sex than throw him out or get satisfied but never think for marriage or daiy partner. Your good wisher
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