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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:DEAR CUPID!! I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. The other day I was on the computer and I saw he left his FB open, I wanted to be nosey and checked it out. I came across these message he was writing to an ex talking about how he will always love her, how if they were still together he would put a smile on her face everyday. Him and I recently became FB friends and the one pic that he has up of us was from thanksgiving. In the messages he was writing to the woman she asked him how old is your gurl she looks like a baby ( I'm 24 he's 36) he replied to the woman saying " oh she just someone I use to pass the time with" . I also read another message from a woman he use to live with saying" he misses her and her dog and hopes to talk to her soon 3 " and wrote a stupid little heat at the end as u can see. Well we got into a real bad fight and I exposed everything, all he could say was "I never did anything with any of those gurls and I haven't even seen them it was just banter on the computer" . I can't begin to tell you how stupid I feel. Ive been cheated on in the past but I trusted my boyfriend and now I don't know if I can ever trust him again. He says he's going to prove to me that nothing never happen and but he hasn't yet. I don't know what to do.... Please help!!!!
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (1 January 2012):
 I am a firm believer in working through issues in a relationship, and making a breakup the dead last option, but this isn't a situation where I'd give a guy a pass. Telling another woman that you're just someone he passes the time with shows his lack of respect for you, and that he's clearly not serious about your relationship. I'd be willing to bet he's also rather insecure, which is unfortunate. Do yourself a HUGE favor, and leave him. Give yourself the love and respect u deserve, and take a chance on finding someone else who will value you, and your relationship. I'm sorry this happened to you!
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reader, lonelylonelysoul +, writes (1 January 2012):
 im going thru the exact same thing and just posted about it also. my boyfriend told me the same exact thing yours did, and hasn't proved it yet, I had requested to be his friend on facebook and he still hadnt accepted it or wrote he was in a relationship yet! I got upset told him forget it he doesn't have to do anything he doesn't want. that was december 18th...he just now text me to sa happy new year and that I can text and call him any time!! my heart just fell--I couldn't believe that's all he said to me. after all this time, xmas passing and everything..no explanation to why he couldnt prove what he said he would or even a reason why he didnt se my friend request to accept it but managed to get my message saying he didnt have to accept it?!!I feel like crying but im trying to be strong because deep down even if he hasnt slept with any of them girls or his ex that he wrote o facebook saying he love them. I still know if he cared about me truly he would of been proved it, he would of never been up there talking to females like that and he wouldnt just be saying happy new year now..I'm guessing you're still currently with your boyfriend and I will never tell anyone to dump who they with but I will say I understand how you feel and I hope you know you deserve better hun...a man will always do what he want!! if he had th time to talk to them girls then he had the time to prove to you what you needed to be proved!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): Dump him, he's playing all of you. He's already proven to you that you can't trust him so don't waste any more of your precious time with him. Good luck.
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