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writes: I have recently made a discovery. I’m not sure what you could call it really. A technique? A tool? Whatever it may be, I am in amazement. It is really helping me. I have no idea where it has come from, this idea. It just popped into my mind the other day, and has been helping me ever since. It could possibly be from a book I was reading, it may have inspired me. I guess it doesn’t matter. I just would like to talk about it though, incase it might be of some help to someone else. It may sound utterly stupid or ridiculous, but if it works for you too...that would be great.For the longest time, I have felt trapped. Trapped by other people, by circumstances, by behaviours and feelings. But I have started to visualise something which is helping with that. It started with my neighbour. I won’t go into the details, but I tend to be very affected by them, and by what they are doing. It seriously interferes with my daily life. The other day, I had this sudden picture in my head of them and me, and that there was a cord between us, attaching us together. Like a rope, something like that. So whatever they were doing was travelling down the cord and affecting me. I then suddenly had this image of a giant pair of scissors coming along and cutting the cord, severing the connection. I saw my neighbour floating away from me, far away, until they were nowhere to be seen. Leaving me completely free. To my absolute amazement, I felt it. I felt free. I felt unaffected by them and their actions. And so now, whenever I start to feel troubled and affected by them, I imagine a giant pair of scissors coming along and cutting that cord connecting us. That’s it. That is my amazing discovery. Pretty neat, huh?! So anyway, I have been experimenting. I thought that if this technique could help me with my neighbour, it could help with other people too. So if I go out and someone bothers me or upsets me, I do the same thing. I imagine a pair of scissors cutting a cord between us, so I am completely free. And yes, it is even helping with that. I have even started to think that it could help with other situations too. Like, say if you are trying to get over an ex, or have ended a friendship and are having a hard time moving on. Maybe this might help. Imagine the cord between you being cut, as often as you need to. Imagine that person floating away from you. You are now free. Okay, it might have to be repeated throughout the day, but if it helps even for a little while, that has to be something, right?Maybe it can even be used on situations, habits you would like to break, behaviours you would like to move away from. Just imagine what it is, give it a picture or symbol to represent it, and use the technique. Maybe even emotions. If you are angry or sad, you could imagine a cord between you and that emotion being severed, and you are moving away from it, until it is no longer anywhere near you. Nowhere on the radar at all. And you are free. Of course, I know that the issue or situation will need to be worked on, and it will certainly take more than this to feel better about it. But maybe the visualisation might help too, while you go through it.I don’t know if this sounds absolutely ridiculous. It is just something that popped into my mind a few days ago, and has been having a surprisingly positive impact on me. I am still experimenting with it, trying out new things, like the things I have described here. If this sounds silly, or means absolutely nothing to you, that is okay, and I can understand! Just move on and forget about it. It may not be for you. But, well, I guess I am hoping that if this is helping me, it may help other people too. Maybe...who knows? Thanks for reading this anyway, and I really do hope it might be of some help to someone...even if it just makes someone laugh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): So much tidier than the one i've been relying on, which involves a blowtorch and a cannon. Thanks..!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all of the responses and comments. I am glad to know this has been helpful to some people in the same way it has helped me. What was that? There is going to be a talk about vasectomies? Oh, well, you know what? I'd love to stay and join in, but I think my fish need feeding. Excuse me...*runs out of the room*... :-D
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reader, Carlaaay  +, writes (20 June 2010):
Wooah, you know out of all the stories i have read on this site, this statement is brilliant, i dont know how you managed to create a technique like it!
You have done something very speical by posting this online, people with problems of self-harming could really find another door out than physically harming themselves, they can emotionally snip every little pain away and set there spirits free!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): I can tell you all you need to know about vasectomies. But in this story, what you have done is visulization (a form of meditation) and abit of cognitive re-reframing. Its like: if you always see a glass half empty... you need to re-think what you are seeing and accept that the glass is half full. Remember - your brain has a mind of its own.... so you need to take control of it, manipulate it, get it to think differenetly (positively) and it can do amazing things.
Now about those vasectomies....
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 Does it still smell like burnt flesh down there Q?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (7 June 2010):
 I used a rusty pair of scissors on my son in law...4 kids in 5 years...sheesh. Okay well I thought about it anyway, imaginary scissors can be very therapeutic!
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reader, samyum  +, writes (7 June 2010):
 Good on you ....you know what it may just work because of the positive thinking associated with it..You are freeing yourself fromt the problem ... Im going to try it anyway
SNIP! GONE :)
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reader, chigirl +, writes (5 June 2010):
Doh. We're talking about tools to escape things that bother you in life. Get released from the worries you sillywilly. Plus I don't think any vasectomies are really performed with scissors, I believe they use surgical knives?
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reader, chigirl +, writes (5 June 2010):
lol, of course Q. Maybe you want to get lubed up instead so you can slip away without cutting any cords?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (4 June 2010):
 mmmm... I'm trying... can I use a chainsaw instead.. me cords have turned into big massive vines that have tangled me all up...
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 June 2010):
 LOVE IT!!! Thank you for sharing this. Great tool! I'll be using it, for sure.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (4 June 2010):
Yes, the snipp sound was there. Kinda like a larger version of the scissors they use to cut ribbons with when opening a new bridge or tunnel or something :) And yes, I saw a red ribbon as well being cut, haha, so it was impossible not to laugh. In a way it is a good metaphor, we are opening up to new parts of our lives by cutting away the old. So it does deserve the serimonal scissors in my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's okay, the scissors I imagined were pretty huge too! Even crazier, there are even added sound effects, like a giant "SNIP" sound! Glad to hear it made you laugh! :-D
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reader, chigirl +, writes (4 June 2010):
I tried imagining a giant pair of scissors cutting the cord between me and things that I worry with. I know you didn't say they had to be huge, but in my head they ended up as gigantic either way. The result was that I went from feeling worried and sad to laughing because of the image. Giant scissors works for me!
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