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age
41-50,
*hely19
writes:This is a guy who chased me for a year only for me to find out he was still sleeping with someone who was suppose to be his ex. then he supposedly told her it was over but would still stay down her house on the weekend end it drove me crazy. so i went to her house we got into a fight and she pressed charges on me, he said and did nothing. what do you think? will i ever hear from him again?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 July 2008):
 Why on earth did you fight with the woman? It was the guy here who you should be angry with and talking to. This is irrational thinking on your part, and you need to start thinking logically about this.
Read what Artistry has said very carefully, she has laid it out for you fairly clearly.
This must have been quite a fight, if she's pressing charges. And why would he bother defending you? He's already proven himself to be unreliable, untrustworthy, a cheat and a hound. Why would he want to continue a relationship with a woman who beats up his other women? When word gets out about you, and if he stays with you, he'll never be able to cheat again. That doesn't sound like something he would like, so he's thrown you to the wolves and left you to deal with the consequences of your own actions.
Sorry, but you're better off without him. I suggest you seek some counseling for your inappropriate anger and behavioral issues, seriously, this will help you cope with life a little more maturely.
Take care of yourself.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (29 July 2008):
 Hi there, Seems as though you want to try to have a relationship with this man. My question would be why?
He was probably playing both of you, as some men do. Me, I call that cheating, and dishonest. How do you trust him again, or are you willing to put up with his dabblings.
If you do, then I have to ask another question, where is your self-esteem? I hate to be so blunt but I also hate to see women taken advantage of, as well. Let this man go on his way, if you get back together with him, there will be other women, as my thought is, that a cheat is a cheat. Count yourself lucky that he has disappeared. Don't ever lower yourself to physically fighting over a man, who is seeing another woman, as well as you. It is beneath you, and it is rioty, and suppose someone gets seriously hurt. Stop the insanity. There are other men who will respect you, take the time to find them. This man is not worth the time of day, he probably chased you because he considered you a challenge, he does not respect women, and he is a user. Pardon my rant. Now if this is your cup of tea then, vey good luck to you, but you are setting yourself up for hearttbreak in my opinion. If you didn't practice safe sex, I would have myself tested for whatever you feel is neccessary, this is a dangerous sexual world, and certain enjoyable sexual things, can lead to death. No joke. Please don't fixate on somebody who is not worth your time, Life is short, if he came back to me, I would always be wondering what the heck he was into now, that is no way to have a healthy relationship, think about it, trust is most important between two people, who care about each other, but it has to be mutual. Good luck to you, and raise your expectations regarding men. This one has shown you what he is about, if you accept it, you will probably be treated worse the next time. As he will feel that he can do anything and you will accept him back in your life, don't you think that is a bit sad? Take care and be as happy as you can be.
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