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writes:Well i've been with my boyfriend for a year and four months. Everything between us is great all the time, except when his uncle is there.His uncle is 24, i'm 14, and my boyfriend is 15. Before my boyfriend and i got together, I had a really big crush on his uncle, and he would always secretly tell me that he wished i was younger and small flirty stuff. He stopped when i got together with his nephew, but he has this mean attitude towards him now, i asked my boyfriend why his uncle was being that way, but he said he had no clue.I still think his uncle is so hot, and he knows i've had a crush on him. I love my boyfriend and would never want to hurt him in any way. But, these feelings all go away when I see his uncle. I know i could never go there- especially because of the age gap and its my current boyfriends uncle, but its like i forget my boyfriend even exists whenever his uncle's around. My boyfriend acts like he doesn't care that his uncle flirts with me and that i had a crush on him for the longest time, but i know he does.. which is why i try to stay as far away from his uncle as possible, even though i don't want to at all!what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIrish49,
that was a typing error. i meant to put that he would say he wished HE was younger .
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reader, pebble  +, writes (16 May 2009):
 What you need to understand is what this man is doing is illegal. Do you think it's ok for adult men to say sexual things to children? Is that acceptable to you?Because that's what's happening here. The sooner you open your eyes to this guy being a disgusting scumbag the better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): This Uncle is 24 years old. You are 14 years old? And you said in your posting,
"he would always secretly tell me that he wished i was younger and small flirty stuff."
I found that an odd thing to say, as I am thinking here, 14 years old is quite young. What other type of flirty things did he say to you? Can you write back and let us know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): i am addressing you like an adult so please read my words carefully:keep away from this man. he is dangerous and to top it of is also mean to your bf. i am actually afraid for you if you continue like this. it is only a matter of time this situation explodes and you will be soley to blame for this mess. the 24 yr old is up to something so if you really really love your bf you will not flirt back or give any indication that you like him. you are playing with fire and you will get burned if you are not careful. please please realise how serious this is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): Honey, what you should do is grow up a little and put this "uncle" out of your head. You know it is just a fantasy. There is nothing there for you, and you know it. As for your bf, he probably is both angry and embarrassed about his uncle's flirty talk or ways when you are around. But, what can he do? or say? His uncle is being a jerk and a bully. He probably does it just to make your bf uncomfortable. Some guys are like this. He is very immature for 24. He should be out on his own and involved with a woman his own age. And never, ever...give him a hint that you would be interested in him, honey. You could bring down great trouble if you did. And you could not have much of a relationship with "uncle" if he is in prison,..which is where he could wind up. Do you understand what I am saying? I would advise to avoid being with bf at his home or when "uncle" is around. Tell bf you don't ewant to be around him and just want to be with bf away from him. And I hope you mean it, hon. This could cause serious problems.
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reader, Amsieee(: +, writes (16 May 2009):
 keep staying away. i know it might be hard because you think hes hot but seriously his uncle is like a peadophile and its wrong. and if you did truly love your boyfriend i dont think you would forget him entirely try and focus on yur boyfriend when around his uncleim sorry if what i said appeared a little harsh but i hope it sheds light on yur situationgood luck x
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