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writes:I keep tryin to move on but i can't.. I'm always thinking about him no matter who i am with. And i was the one who let him go... How do i cope? I need help..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt was because of drugs and drink. I'm with someone new now so see how it goes. I keep thinking if we got back together would it work anyway?? Apparently he has stopped the drugs but im not sure. He only lives down the road and i never seem to see him all i want to do is see him and maybe have a chat and i will know if i still love him. Im always checking his profile on the internet to see how hes doing...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): Why are you tomenting yourself and the guy who's sitting home crying by the phone because you haven't returned to him yet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): A breakup is often frequently short changed by being regarded as a bad thing, a sign that a relationship is not meant to be. This perception by far is actually destructive to what is predestined to be. A breakup actually permits both parties to distance and space to reflect upon their history objectively which ultimately permits both parties to realize that the breakup wasn't necessarily one or the others fault but a combination of the two. This time or reminiscing additionally allows both parties to self reflect on their shortcomings and thus prompt them to make an active and conscious effort to reform fore the better. And that you miss the person and find it hard to move on means that you are in love with the person and really want to give the relationship another try, only this time you and the other party are more respecting and appreciative of the other. I am pro-give it another try, because in really no relationship is perfect. You're going to inevitably lock horns, and running away is not the answer and that's why the divorce rates high. Follow your heart. I recommend you give it another try.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (18 October 2010):
 I've been there. The only way to cope is to keep moving forward. Value the time you had, reminisce, but you would be doing a tremendous disservice to them by trying to start it back up. The other person deserves someone who appreciated what they had, when they had it.
Doesn't make you a bad person. You just need to find a new person to love, and be loved by. Get those pair-bond hormones flowing again with someone new. There are millions of people out there who would be just as good, and obsessing over the one you let go doesn't help anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): my ex dumped me and i find it so hard to move on as we share a child who also shares his name who he has no contact with and i got fed up with asking him to see his boy as he clearly did not want to,but i have to say i had some great times with my ex and enjoyed being with him,but he pulled away as he is afraid to commit,share a life under 1 roof and im moving forward but live in hope that one day he will clearly see what we had was unique and accept that i love him dearly and dont want to love anyone else,but i wont hold my breath
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): I hear love birds when I read your words. The only way you're going to stop the misery is to contact him and be honest with him about what you feel and want with him. Hey you only live once so stop cheating yourself of days limited and go for the gusto. He must be a great gentle since you seem in love with him. Remember you said you let him go so maybe he's miserable to and wasting limited days like you. Life is happiness and love. Stop cheating yourself and him. Get in touch with him yesterday before another girl gets his heart. Regret is pointless and a life of self torture and debiliating pain. True love never dies and it also is fearless to risk
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Why did you let him go? Sounds to me like you're still in love with him????? It's difficult to provide effective strategic advise without a bit of backround. Was he ugly? A loser? Gay? Married???? See what I mean?
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reader, aquapod1993 +, writes (17 October 2010):
I personally believe that if you can't go a day without thinking of someone, they are meant to be in your life! Maybe give him a second chance...really think about why you ended it, and consider the fact that maybe you want him back!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): What i did was hang out with the guy i had these same problems with a couple more times even though we were no longer together. It help me realize the reason i let him go in the first place and helped me define how i felt more clearly.
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