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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm in my mid 20's... have always been attracted to the opposite sex and only aee myself having a serious relationship with the opposite sex.However recently, and increasingly, I find myself being attracted to another female and just imaginating things...It's very confusing (and a little upsetting) because this is happening to me for the first time. I have had MANY female friends and this is the first one I've ever felt this way about. I've always thought you have a good idea on your sexuality by your teens... not mid 20's! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2015): It's not a problem, honestly - sexuality is very fluid, and I think that it can change throughout your life. You hear about men who are married and then discover they're gay; there's nothing wrong with realizing your sexuality is changing, or finding out more about it.
Your preferences in men have probably changed throughout your life and might always keep on changing - likewise, gender/sex is just a physical factor, about as unimportant as hair or eye colour.
So what if you've had many female friends? Just because you're attracted to a gender doesn't mean you're going to be attracted to every woman, just as you're probably not attracted to every man. Perhaps this woman is just your type. Don't be upset (why would you be upset?) - allow yourself to change. Explore it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2015): Imagining and doing are two different things. If you see your self as a woman in a relationship with a man then all you have to do is behave that way, and act that way and leave the imagination and fantasy to ripen away through time. Sometimes people go through different stages of perception and it is often done in order to confirm and strengthen your commitment to what you have already decided.
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