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writes:I'm having some trouble understanding exactly what I'm experiencing. I recently made friends with a girl whom I used to know at my primary school. I cant really explain why but I find her irresistibly attractive, more so than anyone else I've ever known, even celebrities. I prefer her company even over my best friend who I have known since I was 2 years old. I cant stop thinking about her and haven't been able to think about much else for the last 12 weeks. We share the exact same beliefs and aspirations - I can read her like a book. I have met her roughly 15 times in person, making sure to talk to her every time, and used to spend hours talking to her on the internet a while back, before she stopped logging on.She doesn't fancy me. She made out with some guy she had never met right in front of me a few weeks back. This also confirms that she doesn't know I like her, she wouldn't have done that if she knew. She takes her time in responding to me - sometimes forgetting to do so at all. It's hard to explain but when she does talk to me I feel completely overjoyed. To make matters worse she is moving to the other side of the country in a few months time. I know nobody is perfect, I know she cant possibly be flawless, but in all the time I've spent with her - so far I haven't found anything which I dislike. It's hard not to compare other girls against her, a few have made advances on me but I just can't bring myself to do anything about it. I don't want anyone else.Is it possible that this is just a big crush or do I love her? I want to push this forward but if she doesn't respond to me then how could I possibly do that without looking like a creep? Lastly, and most importantly, is there any way of getting over her? I cannot continue to feel like this - It's not healthy.Please help me, this is torture. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm going to bump this as I could really do with some more help, thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, well thanks for your answers. I thought it over and I realised that she isn't perfect but her imperfections are so few and far between that I really couldn't care less. However I think you're right, its probably just an infatuation.I would still like some answers regarding how I can forget about her though. She is way "out of my league" in more ways than one. She is quick and intelligent whereas I am slow and forget almost everything I'm taught. I wont even bother comparing our appearances. I know a guy asked her out the other week who she denied, I met him not long ago and he puts me to shame. I really value her company and her friendship a lot so would rather not avoid her if at all possible. Is there any easy way of doing this? Its really quite depressing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): Don't bother confessing your "love" to her. First of all she moving anyways. We all know how hard long distance relationships are even when you've been with some for years and this chick doesn't even know you like her. Sounds to me like you just like the idea of her. If you can't find one thing that you don't like about her then it's definately not love. When you love someone you can make a list of at least 5 to 10 things you don't like about them but you find ways to cope with them. However you think this girl is prefect and so you probably just lust her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): I think you have a strong case of infatuation....And as time passes, you will find someone who feels the same way about you, as you do for her. Just keep your head up, and keep being her friend.....Best of luck Lover Boy!!
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reader, MorganRenee  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 I really think you have a crush...but just in a deeper sense. If you loved her nothing would hold you back from letting her know and nothing would keep you from trying to get what you want. I'm not saying that you can never love her...I just think it's getting there but not quite there yet.
***Missy***
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