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male
age
30-35,
*aurice Daniel
writes:I know this girl, who tells me I’m one of her best friends in the world. I'd do everything and anything for her. I have done everything for her. Whatever she needs, whenever she needs it, I’ve been there. I've never had any kind of romantic feelings for her. She has a boyfriend who she constantly complains about and doubts he even loves her, and I constantly defend him (not even knowing him that well) because I think they're perfect together, like reassuring her that he does in fact love her, things like that. I don't want them to split up. Then all of a sudden I fell for her. HardAnd I thought it might be ok because the last I heard, she was breaking up with him. I spent a few days trying to make sense of my feelings and when I finally accepted the fact I love her. She tells me she and her boyfriend are the best ever, and she’s happier than she’s ever been... I have the worst luck... Anyway, I got real drunk last night and told her I how I felt and I’ve felt horrible since. Like I’ve ruined our friendship. And now it’s awkward, and all I want to do is run away and hide....The question is, how do I deal with my feelings for her? And what do I do now I’ve told her???
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2013): You have to accept things as they are. Continue to support her relationship with her boyfriend, as you always have. You now know whatever issue they had before, it has been worked out. You're a wonderful guy for being so good to her. If you really care about her, you won't do anything to damage her relationship. How you feel is understandable.Hey, don't beat yourself up for telling her how you really feel. Yes, it's awkward; but it's out in the open. You were drunk, and used alcohol for courage. Not good; but at least she knows how you really feel. Just be prepared to accept the fact that nothing may change regarding her relationship with her boyfriend. Don't add complications.Give her a little space and give yourself a little time to get your feelings in order. Every guy will get a broken heart sooner or later. Guess what? Someone special will come your way and you'll forget all about it.
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