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*nonymousFox
writes:Would it be better to seek closure with someone? or just continue to stay apart completely? We haven't seen or talked to each other in about 2-3 years, but I never really felt we had a clean break from each other, things just got awkward. There's still some things I wanted to talk about and things I want to ask, but haven't. I've heard that it's best to get closure before moving on, but on the other hand I also heard that it's best to just stay out of contact with them, get rid of phone #'s, etc.. Honestly though I don't know if this would just be me looking for an excuse to see them again or not, and just not sure what to do. Sometimes I feel alright when thinking about it, but every now and then on days like today it just hits me kinda hard. Do you think talking to the person would help at all and be a good idea? or do you think it would do more harm than good (for both of us) and just be a bad idea (and just continue to stay out of contact)?It is a little more complicated than that, but I tried to keep it as general as possible. Reply to this Question
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reader, desperate_angel +, writes (21 August 2008):
 hello dear, its a fact that break up is very very painful to us. At first its so hard to find closure or acceptance of the reality. We feel hurt because we still love the person and cant let go. Some things are hard to express freely so as not to add pain to another person and vice versa. You couldnt have closure because there's still some things to clear up but left unsaid. If you feel that things couldnt be clear up talk to that person again and find the answer. As times goes by after this you will realize that things will be alright and you could move on to your life. You deserve to be happy. Find that happiness to somebody who will love you more. goodluck
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