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writes:i am a married woman.recently i was with my husbands friend alone at home.he is actually my best friend now cos i used to talk to him everything and he used to talk to me everything.we have been mates for last 2 years.we used to talk for hours.recently when we were alone he hugged me and was about to kiss me.but we dint kiss but hugged each other for a long time. for the first few days things were fine and we were talking but now suddenly he has stopped to call me and doesnt even answer my calls.i asked him if we can meet up,he says yes but then says he is busy wid his business.when i asked him why he was behaving weirdly and not talking to me he said he was having some problems in business and is busy trying to sort them out.but i feel that he is avoiding me.i just cant understand y he is doing that.there has never been a time that if i called me and if he was busy he used to return a call later but not any more.pls help
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): Sometimes people in here are really retarded. giving you suggestions like keep calling him?!?!?!?! I know this is a very old post but some people do go through this and google it.Clearly he felt the same sexual tension, but soon came back to his senses and realized that this is his best friend's wife.Anyone going through this same situation needs to back away from that situation, before this develops into infidelity. Unless you really do not care for your spouse. and family morals and want to hurt your spouse beyond anything please do continue with calling their friend and try to progress it into something immoral.In your situation he is a good friend to know what is and isn't appropriate, unlike you. Work on your marriage not friendship with others.when you dodge a bullet you don't try to recreate the same situation to see how the bullet was dodged. you move away from that and never be in the same situation to where a bullet is barreling towards you to be dodged.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): He may be a bit scared, so I would keep calling, alot.
Text him and tell him that you need to know what he wants.
Mind you, He mind have had second thoughts and decided he wasn't into you. Maybe your no longer his 'cup of tea' like that anymore with second thoughts? Possibly.
Have you been looking good when he is around? I mean could you have put him off in anyway, do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): In a way you should be pleased because he is respecting your husband. He is not daft and will have felt the 'spark' and been concerned not to let it go further. Unless you enjoy playing with fire leave the spark where it is and let it fizzle out. A friend is a friend.
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reader, red1982 +, writes (4 March 2008):
He obviously felt the same thing as you and is trying to avoid you so that he cannot do anything further. He recognises that you are a married woman and will not cross the line.
It sounds like it is the most sensible thing to do for the moment. I think you came very close to stepping over the line and possibly need some time apart from each other to cool off. Hopefully your friendship can get back on track, but in the meantime let him be and he'll call you when he's got his head together. When you do see him again however it may be best to make sure that you are not alone if you feel that you couldn't resist temptation.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 He relized that he has crossed the thin red line and he is afraid that he may not be able to control his urges the next time.
Thus , he is avoiding you at all cost.
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