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writes: I knew this guy for 7 months now. We started seeing each other 5 months ago. He's 33 and I'm 27. When I first met him he was getting himself out of trouble that he got himself into 3 yrs ago with the law. I have a son and he has 3 kids with 2 baby mommys. When we first started seeing each other I could tell he wasn't the type 2 settle down and he was all about " playing the game ". I remember even before we had sex when we use 2 fool around he would say " this is mine, no one else better touch or see ". I told myself all he wanted was 2 get into my pants. As we got 2 know each other I realized we were doing things like spending almost every day with each other, him sleeping over, he was meeting my family and interacting with my son more than we should be. I don't let my guy friends get that close to my house and family until its boyfriend status. I got scared. Especially when he pointed out to me he was breaking all my rules. He opened up to me where I met the family he's living with and I took him to see his p o every week when I didn't have to work. Before I knew it I realized I fell for this guy. I tried my hardest to change the way I felt because we were just friends. But he could read me sooo well he knew something was up. So around 2 months and a half I expressed to him that I fell for him more than I should have, thinking at that point he would run away and start pushing me away. Instead he hugged me and told me " its okay baby. It'll be okay. I have a secret to and its how you I tend to get jealous. " Then that whole week he would call me right when I finished work and make plans with me to watch movies at my house every night. So last month (6 months) one night when I was dropping him off @ home, out of no where I told him ... its been 6 months and you know how I feel and I think its time if u tell me if u feel the sane or not. He told me he can not tell me if we r going 2 end up with each other or not. I said " I'm not asking for a commitment, I just want to know if our intentions are the same" and he answered with ... I'm letting nature take its course !!! So I told myself with that comment he has no business getting mad when a guy calls my phone and he better not try and tell me I'm not gonna go places like he use to. I started treating him like a " booty call " he obviously wanted. Well this past Wednesday we went hiking and we really enjoyed each other's company again. It was really nice and we even thanked each other and made plans for that night. 5 minute later everything fell apart. We went 2 home depot 2 look for something for his lizard cage and when I parked he told me I parked right in front on his ex. He told me he still wanted to go in when I asked him if he wanted to leave. By the way, we haven't met each other yet. After we got what he wanted as we walked to the register I saw her in the department by the registers. While we was checking out I saw him start getting all nervous and he couldnt keep still. He mumbled softly " my ex is right there " as he walked away from me to hug and kiss her hello ( which I have no problem with) but when I was done checkout I looked up and I saw him walk into the store with her. I was like, what am I gonna do? Stand here and wait like a dumb ass ? I was so irritated that he didn't even tell me " ill b right back " so I left the item at the register and told the cashier 2 have him carry it out when he leaves. I went to my car to wait thinking he'll see I left and he'll come out by himself. Within 5 mins he walks out with her, walks her to her car, hugs and kisses her good bye, waits til she gets in the car then goes back in the store 2 get the plant I bought him and he comes into my car telling me I need to stop getting mad bcuz he did nothing wrong. I tried to explain how I believed there was nothing wrong with the situation bcuz he is not mine but I was irritated at the fact he couldn't even introduce me as his friend. Isn't that what I am ... his friend ??? Well we argued and yelled all away to his house. He told me he wouldn't feel so bad if I brighten up my mood before he got out if the car. That just made me more upset. He told me we were still gonna do what we planned and he'll call me later. Of course I didn't hear from him. I sent him a long text telling him I'm gonna take not hearing from him as a way of him telling me to back off and explaining how I'm sorry I pushed our friend ship as far as I did and despite how I felt for him I was just trying to be a real friend and help him get through Thar time in his life. I got one text saying " its not like that, stop. It's cool. I got u !!! Ur gonna hear from me if u like it or not. Can we just get over this already ??? " The next day, Thursday. I cried all day but I stayed strong to my word of backing off. Then in the afternoon I got a friend request on Facebook from his ex. I called him and yelled. I felt Like I was about to lose my mind. When I good him I really don't need this shit and I'm hanging up he says okay call me when u calm down. I told him I'm sorry I'm gonna try my hardest not to call you . He responded with " can u please stop saying that shit " It's Sunday, I haven't heard from him and and I'm a total mess. Im crying all day even in front of customers at work. When I sleep I have multiple dreams of him and I remember everyone. I feel like I lost my best friend and I feel like I'm breaking up with a boyfriend with he was only a friend. Why am I feeling like this when obviously he does care and I knew how he was from the start. And what does all this shit mean ???
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2011): Sorry you are having a bad time with this. I would want to know why thisgirl sent you a request? Is she really his ex? Or do youyhink he is stillbseeing her? Sorry for bad spelling.bit is my phone and I can't see what I am typing! If she is geiunely an ex then it could be a good thing her adding you, imaybe he asked her to do it for you to feel better? Or she is just being nosey. Either way what he did in the store was just down right dis respectful whether your a friendbor his women, he made you look and feel abtwat by walking off with hrr, the least hecould have done like you say is introduce you. You ask what you should do? Nothing! You font need to do a thing, you have beeb very reasonable and most girls wouldn't act so cool for him so as not to sscare him off. Tiger been straight withhim so he could at least be dtrsight back! If he doesn't put up a fight for you then walk away, you can do so much better...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): Sorry hun but this is not good...Get yourself out of this sooner rather than later
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