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writes:my boyfriend of a 1 1\2 is out of town for a month for training. the first night alone i went to a party and got a little drunk. my guy friend was thier and i know he has feelings for me even though we have disscussed that i am very much in love with my boyfirned. i fell alsleep on the matress on the ground and was he the floor i felt bad so i told him to go on the bed with me. we put a pillow betwwen us but i woke with his arm around me. nothing happend i remeber everything. i just feel really guilty and i love my bf so much. his best friend told me that he would kick me out if i told him because its sounds bad even though i no nothing happend.i dont want to lose my bf but i dont want to be disonest. help!
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 its a tough situation to be in cos if someone did say anything to him well then you have lied, and you look worse - in his eyes. if you do tell him, he may wonder why you felt the need to say anything if nothing happened and he may not trust that thats all that happened. to be honest i would tell him - tell him that you had a great night at this party and that the two of you passed out or something, but that nothing happened. he should understand and trust you. email me if you want more help, i hope it works out x
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Hi,
You don't need to tell him, you didnt do anything and if you do tell him it will only sound a lot worse than it is.
See this as a lesson, that you shouldnt put yourself in situations where you might have some explaining to do to your boyfriend. A jealous mate of his or friend of yours could easily tell him that they saw you two going into a bedroom together and not departing until the next morning - it will never look good. Your friend obviously respected you enough not to try anything on, so he should be commended for that. But you know that nothing happened, so you don't have to explain your every move to your boyfriend. You really have nothing to be guilty about.
Waking up with his arm around you is totally innocent, we all look for something to hold onto when we sleep it is natural,so just see it as a warning sign, if you have too much to drink next time another guy may not be quite so respectful of your relationship and you may have to fight him off.
If you go out , go home with a girlfriend it is as simple as that. But don't tell your boyfriend, I mean what's to tell?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): The only way a realashonship is going to work out is with honesty... If your boyfriend dosen't trust your word, then you don't need to be with him. If nothing happened, then nothing happened...No harm, no foul. I know you love your boyfriend, but if he is that narrow minded, you need to find someone who is more understanding.Good Luck Sugar Booger!!
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