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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:my boyfriend and i have been having sex for about 4 months now and i haven't orgasmed. i do masturbate and do orgasum but by clitural stimulation.i have only come close once during sex but my boyfriend stopped before i could.anyone got any ideas or advise on how to or how to help. i just feel useless please please help.
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (7 June 2008):
It sounds like your bf is a selfish lover. Your not the problem he is. It sounds like he cant last long enough to please you. The besti can say is try telling him what you want during sex and see if that helps and tell him to read up on how to last longer. Also if he is your first you might not be completely comfortable and that can provent ann oragasm. After I lost my virginity it took me six months to oragasm for the first time. I guess I wasn't as comfortable as i thought i was!
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (7 June 2008):
 ok your young but cant say anything other than dont do it but well your choice..please tell me you are using contraception ie condom or pill as if you dont good chance you will get pregnant..you have to tell him what you like and dislike.. if you can achieve an orgasm yourself then its not unlikely that you can do it through intercourse so show him how you like it by hand or tell him during intercourse whats good..third being in arelaxed enviroment also helps to make it easier so be chilled and enjoy it.. aphex
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): Try yourself, (masterbate) and see if you can orgasm. Then tell your bf to do it accordingly. Also go for long foreplay. In some females it takes longer time to orgasm.
Don't worry you will succeed in due course. In my case it took nearly a month after marriage to orgasm though we had intercourse almost every day. But still I enjoyed them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): You're not useless Hunny. You're very young... You need to give yourself time. It took me years before I could climax during sex. Quite a few women wouldn't be able to orgasm at your age so be patient, it's not your fault.
(Trying not to take your age into consideration)
In the mean time try and find possitions that give you clitoral stimulation. Your boyfriend could try and please you with his hands when he is finished, that way at least you won't feel fustrated.
Good Luck,
Emivia. x
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