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writes:I lost my virginity last year and ive slept with 2 more guys since that, i know it sounds bad being 15 and slept with 3 boys. But its messed me up compleatly, the 1st boy i still talk to and im in lessons with him and everything, but he doesnt know that i had a misscarriage with his child i think we must have had sex about 6 times.Then there was my ex boyfriend i liked him so much so when we were in bed and he tried it i just thort why not? I know i should of been less easy and made him wait but i didnt, and i caught him cheating on me about 2 months later so i ended up feeling heart broken. So to help me get oer my ex. Theres this boy that i really like, hes in my school and before this certain night i never had any feelings for him, but we were at this camping party and we got talking and one thing led to another and we had sex in a field, only problem is he had a girlfriend and im getting touble of her everytime i go past her or one of her friends, also ive only spoke to him once since that night and that was to ask him if he was going out with his girlfriend the night we shagged and he said he wasnt.But the problem is i really like him and would love things to get better between us, but he just makes things so a difficult and as if he regrets it. I just dont know what to do, theres so much would like to talk to him about but im just scared of rejection, i literaly can not stop thinking about him, also everyone knows about who i've slept with and now im getting a reputation as a slut, and i really dont want that because no one can see how much i fell for all of these boys and how messed up my head has been lately i've been thinking about my miscarage aswell and im consirering telling the boy about it - even though it was a year ago. But i just want to know how i should deal with this new boy i slept with and really like, because he's clearly not intersted :(Sorry to go on so much but its just how im feeling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2008): Stop sleeping with these guys you are all children and of course you have no right having sex....you are only fifteen and the guys that you sleep with are probably 15 or 16 also...so what do you expect out of them...?to just be in a relationship with you and settle down and you can just trust them and be with them forever...uhhhh no!!! they are kids themselves they know nothing about being in a proper relationship...because it sounds like you think that having sex with these guys will make them love you..and just by that..you have a lot to learn....these guys will probably say anything to get into your pants...that is why you shouldn't just give it up because you like them... now you have a bad reputation which is sort of unfixable once it is started...because now guys will probably want to use you for sex and then talk about you with their friends...so please for you sake do not listen to those boys bullshit..and stop having sex with them just because you like them...I don't care how nice they are...how much they tell you they love you....please don't fall for it...!!!and don't tell that guy that you've had a miscarriage...it sounds like that'll only give them more to talk about...im really not trying to be harsh im just trying to help you so it won't get worse....I've been there and you don't want to be in that situation..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2008): My oh my, dear God, you are still so young and have been through so much.
Please be kind to yourself and stop allowing these guys to "use" you. All these boys want is SEX.
PLEASE be realistic and don't waste your life like this. YOU DESERVE better. STOP having sex with these guys. ABSTAIN for a couple of months and just find yourself. Discover who you are and start loving yourself. When you can find yourself again and start loving and respecting yourself you will not allow these guys to use you and hurt you like this. Respect yourself and take control of your emotions and your hormones.
Be friends with these boys but keep them at a distance. Be a little more mysterious and have them really "chase" you not just for sex, but for YOU the person.
Start being kind and loving to yourself. Lift your chin and look at yourself in the mirror, you are great and you have had enough of hurt and trauma. You have the right to happiness but you will have to start within yourself. Stop having sex. Start building up good friendships and then take it easy and slow with your future relationships.
You are bright and intelligent you know, that there is more to a relationship then sex. SAVE yourself for the right guy.
Don't allow them to use you and don't give yourself to anybody ever again unless you have been dating for a long time and know each other very well.
Sorry about the baby you lost, but then remember maybe it was for the best, because you were not ready to have a child yet. Be more careful in the future and not just because of pregnancies but also STD's and AIDS. Remember, there is NO CURE for AIDS.
Good luck, I am sure you can be strong and will be able to ABSTAIN.
Take good care of yourself and enjoy your life. Settle in a relationship when you are emotionally ready and then take it slow. Don't rush into sex.
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