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writes:im told so often that im ugly that now i believe it when i look in the mirror i cant stand what i see. its my nose mainly - its horrible massive n deformed, it basicly ruins my whole face! also my lips look big n so do my eyebrows, my face is just disgusting. no lads really fancy me n i dont blame them! currently 1 lad though is bein flirty with me but im not flirting back or letting my self get close 2 him because im scared he might be pretendin just 2 be cruel even though he swears hes genuine! so iv really got 2 questions: how can i make myself pretty? should i trust that this lad really likes me?
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reader, beautygirl  +, writes (12 November 2009):
First of all I must say this, you are NOT ugly- no woman is. Every woman has something that is unique beautiful about them and you are no exception. Before you can love your looks you have to love yourself. It starts from the inside.Now, as for your lips you shouldn't complain about them being big. Look at Angelina Jolie who is very beautiful and has full lips and is said to have the best ones in Hollywood. Many woman would kill to have full lips, why do you think people pay millions each year for collagen injections. But is you insist,cover your natural lip line with a little concealer and use lip liner to draw within your natural lip line. Don't go too far within or it might look weird.Thick eyebrows are beautiful and add character in my personal opinion but to make them smaller you can get your eyebrows professionally arched and plucked or you can do it yourself following these steps:1. First, you need to chose the correct shape for your brow. Your brow shape depends on the shape of your eye. The eye and the brow should look balanced.-If you have small eyes, you should thin your brows so they don't overwhelm the eye area and detract from the natural beauty of your eyes.-If you have a full or wide eye, your brow should be full.2. Next, you need to find where your brow should go. You shouldtake an eyeshadow brush or pencil and hold it parallel to your nose.Where the brush meets your brow is where the brow should begin.-To find the end of your brow, extend the brush diagonally from your nostril, following the outside edge of your toward the brow. Where the inside edge of your brush hits is where the brow should end.-To find your arch, hold the brush parallel to the outside edge of the colored part of your eye (iris). Where the brush meets the brow is where the highest part of where you brow should be.3. Now you know the shape you are going for you now want to begin the tweezing process. If you visited with a professional you should only be looking for strays that have returned. If not, began by tweezing the inner brow above the nose. Be sure to tweeze pulling each hair out in the direction it is growing in.4. Tweeze the brow above the pupil of the eye to create the arch.Continue tweezing along the brow as it tapers off in the direction of its natural flow.Make sure all hairs in the tweezed areas are removed.AS for the boy that you think is into you let me tell you that he IS. No guy is going to waist his time trying out a cruel joke on a girl. Trust me he probably thinks something is wrong with him because you are not flirting back. Show your interest because you are beautiful and any guy would be lucky to have you.
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reader, ildab +, writes (20 April 2008):
Hey there, I think u really but REALLY should take my advice and stopp thinking of urself in that way. Firstly, do you know how many girls dream having big lips? or how many of em have an operation just to reach having big lips.
The other thing is u worry to much bout ur nose, think of it like this is a part of you, something special.
Look, psychologycaly it's proved that people think of you the way you represent yourself to them! so stop thinking that your ugly and the others will see you in the same way u think of urself.So from now on, walk headhigh in front of all people always having the saying in ur head "I might not be perfect, but I'm special" and never compare anyone with you. Ur'self is always first!!
and oh, bout the lad.. start chatting more with him, you can go out and have fun without being his girlfriend and by the time u spend together u'll see his intentiones bout u and than decide to go farer or not with him!
Hope this helps.
XXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): hi there- listen mrs dont u listen to anyone i totally agree with the previous person that answerd - you are beautiful to teh people that matter the most and dont u blinking let anyone tell u otherwise- people say taht your ugly?- ____e_ them their opinion is not important what IS important is that you start believing in yourself so instead of thinking about the bad things think about the good things- you didnt mention your eyes adn they can be a really beautiful feature so use them and they will brighten up your whole face- feel beautiful and you are beautiful its as simple as that and guys pick up on it- notice that guys always go for the more confident girls even if us girlies dont even rate them as that pretty so go out there and flaunt it cos everyones got something worth flaunting.Give this guy a shot but keep him at an arms length in case your instincts are rightGood luck x
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reader, WiccanWonder +, writes (20 April 2008):
 Beauty is only skin deep, just show your personality, be yourself and you'll be fine!
Blessed be
~Tasha
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): The simple answer is that you dont need to 'make yourself pretty' because you already are pretty in the eyes of the people who really matter.
Anyone who says you are not attractive are only speaking about their own personal taste and more importantly they are showing that they are both shallow and insensitive. I would doubt you would want to have anything to do with someone who has these bad qualities anyway.
When you look in the mirror, you will naturally see flaws because your insecurities will amplify anything youre unhappy with (i.e. your nose). If you are really unhappy with something that cant be fixed by diet/exercise, make up, clothing, etc then you could ultimately consider, as a last resort, surgery! BUT why bother!!?
You say there is a guy flirting with you...Flirt back! be confident in who you are and dont let your insecurities affect your personality.
I have a simple fix for my insecurities... Exercise! I go to the gym almost every day. It releases endorphins which make you feel great and gives you a lot of self confidence. Try it and let me know how you get on whatever you decide to do.
Good luck!
J
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