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writes:Okay, this is so gonna sound weird and a little sick, but if anyone has some advice I would appreciate you send me a message back.Me and my uncle have been close since I was a baby. I'm turning 17 and he is turning 40 this year. Since I was 14 he has been treating me diffrently like he fancies me or something. The other day he groped my butt and said "sexy bum".. I laughed it off.He then said he can't belive how big my boobs are getting and gets very cross when I talk about boys and my recent realtionships. He always demands to know where I am going and why I am going. We were out the other day and he went to the loo..He came back and started massaging my shoulders and I know this sounds SICK but I felt really turned on. What's happening? is this right?help x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Don't you watch Oprah at all?I watch her regularly.She is putting up a huge war against such molesters.(God bless her).She also helps people understand whats acceptable and whats not.You are young.Please don't feel guilty.Its your uncle that needs to be taken to task.He is a sick pervert.Never be alone with your uncle anytime anyplace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): it's wrong - in terms of how to do it - either tell uncle directly that him touching u makes u feel uncomfortable OR write a short note (it could be 'uncle makes me uncomfortable') and give it to ur mum (or someone else if u trust mum & know she'll handle it right). the note forces u to explain more rather than back out. i'd suggest giving it to her in daylight when she's not stressed & can focus. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008):
No, this isn't right.
When I started reading, I thought that maybe your relationship with your uncle was like my relationship with my sisters.
They are half sisters because my mum remarried and they are quite a bit younger than me.
Our relationship changed when they hit puberty, because they changed, it's normal for this to happen, because people will start treating you like an adult instead of a kid.
I get on really well with my sisters, and we go clubbing together etc.
I also do things like slap them on the ass and compliment them, but very much in a teasing big brother way.
When I read further, I realised that this is not the kind of relationship you have with your uncle. It's good to be close to your family but not that close. It sounds pretty creepy to me.
Maybe he thinks it's ok because you don't discourage his behaviour. If you say something to him, he'll hopefully realise that he has a problem.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (22 October 2008):
 No it's not right. He shouldn't be putting his hands on you. And as far as your feelings go for him, it is just a crush.
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reader, ggl777 +, writes (22 October 2008):
Uum yeah it is sick. Your uncle should't be behaving this way. You are very young and will find someone your age. You dont need someone that is 40 and is your uncle anyways. Try to stay away from him and if he does something like that again like touching then let him now you dont like him doing that. best of luck
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reader, natasia +, writes (21 October 2008):
 To add to what someone said: no man or boy should be being sexual with you IF HE IS YOUR CLOSE BLOOD RELATION!!!!! So yes, it is sick, and you need to make it very clear you aren't interested, because he is behaving in an unacceptable way. You're young and confused, but trust me, other boys will massage your shoulders and it will feel just as good, if not better ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): ok first off, if i were you i would go to your parents.
and also you need to remember that is your uncle.
he shouldnt be doing stuff like that.
but then again, you two have been very close since you were a baby, so maybe he is just shocked how grown up you are getting.
and he is realizing since your getting older he is too.
but still, go to your parents to tell them.
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reader, helpme64 +, writes (21 October 2008):
Hi there.
Their is nothing wrong with you. This is probably part of growing up and the attention your uncle is giving you makes you feel special.
Having said that, your uncle is very irresponsible and his actions are definately not acceptable. He shouldn't act in such a way to his niece.
If he comments again like he has been, make a point of telling him he is making you feel uncomortable. This action isn't just for yuor own sake, but for the sake of other young people he may treat in a similar manner.
I hope this helps.
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