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writes:Alright, so I really need help here.I have been with this girl for almost 2 months now.Basically, I feel soooooo trapped.She seems so controlling, untrusting, etc.I need opinions on what to do.Basically, She wants my myspace password, and get's extremely pissed off whenever I refuse to give it to her and explaining that I have nothing to hide, it's just privacy is all.Second, I am not allowed to go to parties, or hang out with ANY of my friends....she takes it personal like I'd rather spend time with everyone else but her.I have to call her all day long and tell her WHERE I am at all times and what I'm doing (also gets mad if I do anything without her).-Also...my text messages have to be monitored and if I delete them, I get hell for it.It's horrible...I don't do any of this with her...I can't understand why she is doing this. She has trust issues obviously, but what should I do?? I'm ready to call it off, but I kind of care for her ALOT... maybe love her...Let me know plz....any questions about it let me know and I'll answer any about the relationship :)
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (20 May 2009):
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): i honestly think its not worth it. my last girl friend (dated for 1 1/2 years) was also controling and ended up hurting me alot and often just so she would keep the uper hand. i had to show that i am not a dog on a leash and told her that i have my own mind and life and that id apreciate it if she let me choose my own friends (female's) without her fgeting jealouse, go to parties without her needing to know every second, etc. but this upset her and she broke up. i knew that this was going on a downfall a month before but its best not to get stuck with the likes of her. they do hurt, and they dont stop.
choice is yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): Basicly.... she has some serious issues... and the only way to deal with them is to sit down and talk to her... things will only get worse..
Im not saying she is norrotic... I have been jealous and actually did go into my mans stuff.. (caught his ass too).. but after all that.. he let me go in and look and that relieved some of the anxioty of is he cheating mode..
I understand that you may love her but everyone needs their space.
your phone is your phone and she has no right to go in it.
same with your myspace.
you need to sit down and explain this to her very carefully.
Tell her this needs to stop... and reassure her.
tell her you are not going to spend all your time with her she needs to have a life of her own.
I do understand her wanting to be with you at the parties though. :)
as for checking in... no way... you are not a dog...and she does not own you .. this and all the jealousy... are not healthy for a relationship.... think carefully before you continue with this...
I say this because...
she has serious issues that will take time to heal. do you and are you capable to make that kind of commitment?
maybe the talks will help and is certainly worth a try but I urge you to think seriously on this before you have this conversation with her...think about what is best for you.
good luck
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