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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and i have been back together for a few motnhs. We have been doing pretty well..or so i thought. My ex best friend had gone out with him behind my back, almost a year ago. I have put it in the past, and i feel like he has earned my trust back, but now i feel like shes coming back and is threatening our relationship. After all this time of ignoring him, of hooking up with his best friend and other guys, of not being a real friend to me at all, she is now running back to my boyfriend. She has no guy in the picture at the moment, and i think she is still hoping that my boyfriend still has those feelings for her he did a year ago. And recently, they have been talking more than usual and after her first initiation, he has initiated other conversations but jsut to tell her that they can be nice to each other, just not close. I know this may sound selfish, i dont know, but I told him that if he did pursue further, i was out. He tells me that being friends with her is not worth the risk of losing me, and that he isnt going to try any kind of friendship with her because he loves me and that im more important than any of that. i cant even comprehend why he would think of being friends with her again after everything she did to me and to him, and im feeling so threatened by her and by the idea that something might happen again with her and my boyfriend because i know how attached she can get. I really wish i wasnt this insecure but i really wouldnt know what to do if it happened to me again. She is also the type who is very 'friendly' and my boyfriend is the type who is very nice and comforting when you need someone. please help me. i really dont know what to do and i really dont want this plaguing my thoughts.
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