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writes:hey to the person reading this, i need some advice and hope you can help once i get this off my chest as this place has been helpful in the past..okay, so up until last year i was a happy, confident girl. yes i had things i didnt like about myself and such but i never felt depressed or this insecure, ive always felt more mature than people around me or similar to my age but i know that eveyone grows different. apart from that i was pretty secure with myself, even when i was 14, 15 i never let image or worrying about how i looked or where my life was properly going until about a year ago.i feel so insecure when i look at other girls for instance and feel so un worthy at times if i see thinner prettier girls around. i used to be so suportive about other women but now im looking at them and judging them because of my own in security.i dont feel like i have any direction, im at uni and love it but going out and gettin drunk just dont do it for me anymore.. i feel like im looking for something to fill this empty feeling that i have but it just wont go.its also effecting how i communicate with others, i dont want to meet new ppl or spk to anyone much becuase i feel depressed. i feel like my life has no meaning, and i need to find one. i was really emotionally hurt by a past relationship, when i used to be so strong, and even tho over it it has made me insecure and fragile in a way i never was. i feel like i push anyone away that gets too close or i end up letting ppl down in the end, its effecting my work as well as i just put things off. i never used to be like this. my lifes a mess. i need some help asapanyone?
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reader, hamish001  +, writes (16 September 2010):
If you feel as though you are getting trapped and don't want to deal with others, remember, most of the questions dogging you are internal! What does that person think? Do I fit in? etc... Remember one thing, the only person in life you have to satisfy and justify everything to is you! Make sure that you feel like you are achieving (marks, reports, etc.) and so forth and disregard the mob! I hope this has been helpful! One love girl!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): thanks for ur replies
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): You clearly feel really low at the moment, but you can't seem to pinpoint why. If you think back, can you think of any kind of trigger? If you think about when you first started to feel like this, what was happening at the time? Is there anything that happened which upset or bothered you, even something small? You might be able to remember something that happened, which set the downward spiral in motion, so to speak.
If you can't think of any reason why you started to feel like this, then don't panic. It can happen sometimes. I would advise you to try and speak to someone about this though. I know this might be difficult, because you seem to be withdrawing from people. But please try. Don't go through these feelings alone. Could you speak to your doctor? I really think they will be able to help you. Or a guidance counsellor at your university?
If you need to talk, then please feel free to send me a message. Stay strong. x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): well everyone feel insecrure all the time remember that even the prettiest of girls can hate theit hair or think they are fat.just breath a little and think about why yo u feel this way and you might just change your mind
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