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writes:I feel angry all the time and I don't know why. Especially this holiday.I almost screamed at my sister because she invited me to dinner on a day that I had to work overtime while the rest of the family were on holiday so they had no problem with the arrangements.I feel like screaming at my boyfriend when he sits on the couch drinking beer and watching sport all afternoon and then he tells me he's too tired to do any cooking or washing up. I feel so irritable and I seem to have totally run out of patience with everyone and everything.My mom says I'm just nasty so I hope someone out there knows how to fix nasty!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): I understand where you're coming from but if you conitue to act that you'll become just that...nasty.When faced with situations like this you have to calm down and breath. Count from 100 backwards and don't lose control. I can't tell you how many friends I've lost interest in because they're always snapping at me. Nobody likes moody people its annoying and if you keep it up you'll damage the connections that have with people.The best thing to do is stop and realise when it is appropriate to shout at people. You need to start showing gratitude for what you have. At first it might seem like a bother but it shifts your thinking and helps you GREATLY believe it or not. When you weren't able to make the party you could stop and think "I wasn't able to make the party but I'm greatful I have a family that wants me to be with them and a job, many people don't have that." or your lazy boyfriend "I'm greatful I have a boyfriend who doesn't beat me."However, in this sutuation its good to communicate with him. I can't tell how many girls lose boyfrienfs because they fail to communicate effectivelyl don't shout about like a lunatic. Body language is also go, maybe even better. For example when he didn't cook, don't cook either, watch TV too, go online, go out even, maybe order a pizza then go to bed. Let him know you mean business. When he gets upset tell him that you do it for the same reasons he does it. Don't let people take advantage of you, woman up and always be greatful. It make take about 3 weeks to see results but it really helps.All the best and good luck.
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