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writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating for over two years and lately it's been pretty tough. Lately, she has been, to be honest, a big pain the ass. She will start fights and get mad at me over dumb little things like forgetting to say “I love you” and what not. She will literally treat me like shit for something I didn’t even know I did wrong. I would say this has been going on for about 3 months. My friends tell me that this is just how women are, but it didn’t use to be like this. It starting to really strain our relationship and her attitude is starting to make her look unattractive to me. My girlfriend would never cheat on me but I get a feeling she wants to pursue another relationship and it kills to think that. She is also starting to want to smoke pot and do things she would not normally do as she is a “good girl”. I’ve tried talking to her and try to work things out in a calm conversation but she just clams up and won’t talk. I think she doesn’t want to see that sometimes she is unreasonable. I’ve stopped apologizing for things I didn’t do and weren’t my fault also so maybe it’s both of us. This is my first long-term relationship but it’s really starting to stress me out. I really don’t know what to do. My friend says it might be time to part ways but it would kill me to see her with someone else but I honestly don’t know if she loves me anymore. I'm very unhappy right now. Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, nanababy  +, writes (7 July 2009):
The same with me. I'm exactly like your girlfriend. I actually thought that this was written by my boyfriend. not the point though. You need to sit her down, face to face, and tell her that she's being unrasional. tell her that you love her but you cant see the upside to your relationship if she isnt the same as she used to be. tell her all the things you used to love about her. and whatever you dont DONT STOP caring, DONT STOP telling her how much you truly love her and absolutely dont stop keeping contact with her. she loves you. and yeah, shes probably showing some interest in other guys... because shes scared that youll soon break up with her and she will be all alone, so shes looking for someone. just let her know that youre not going anywhere and that you feel it can be worked out. its obvious that shes starting to fall out of love with you, this is where you need to start really trying. shes hurt. show her how much you care
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): I'm like your girlfriend, lashing out at my boyfriend all the time. I cant really give much advice to you, but i know i really dont want to be like it and i doubt your girlfriend does.
I think she may feel uncomfortable in herself/ think shes not good enough and so wants to argue to take her mind off how she feels about herself.My boyfriend thinks i am lashing out at him, but im really not meaning to, i am uncomfortable in myself and assume he only sees the bad things.
Hope this helps a bit
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reader, bobbles32 +, writes (6 July 2009):
 She probably feels smothered in your relationship and like she can't have her own life. She finds small reasons to get mad at you so she can have an excuse to get away from you. She wants to start smoking pot and everything because she's acting out, she wants to have the life that she feels like she's missing because she's in a long term relationship. It's a normal thing.. you two can work it out and she can have her space.
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