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writes:I'm 13 and don't really know what love is and know that I wont find my true love for a long time. so I don't really want to be involved sexually but at the same time I do. And I'm allowed to. My mom will get birth control pills and everything. Please don't judge my mom by that. She just knows kids really well and knows how it feels to be a teen. But even though I wont do anything sexual besides making out I tease my boyfriend and last time I gave hem a big boner and he kinda begged me to do something but I wouldn't so he got mad at me. I felt REALLY bad. I felt like crying. I'm just wondering if what I did was wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, Hyz'fantasieGyrl  +, writes (25 December 2010):
 yes what u did was wrong becouse you cant just expect to tease him and dont continue on. boys have sexual feeling too. if your not ready to do anything then dnt tease.
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reader, JustinNki +, writes (24 December 2010):
 IM REALLY IMPRESSED BY YOU.
Really, some guys just pressure and PRESSURE girls to do it, and if they dont, the pigs that they are, walk out.
You are way too young to do anything. (I understand reality and I was 13 when I started doing stuff) But DONT do anything until your ready.
And hey, I think sometimes its fun to tease them.
But also coming from the guys view. Especially that young, im sure their going crazy. But its not like he wont just go home and please himself anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): Any man is capable of stopping sexual activity at any point and he should always respect the wishes of whoever he is with. Unfortunately a lot of men don't do this, so you have to be careful.
Imo, you're WAY too young to have sex emotionally and more importantly legally.
I would slow things down and stick to kissing and holding hands. Find other activities to do together and concentrate on other things in life.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 You did the right thing. Wait till you are ready.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (24 December 2010):
 You didnt really do anything wrong...but dont go getting him turned on purposely by teasing if you arent going to do anything. Its not really fair to him you know?
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reader, gilly86 +, writes (24 December 2010):
 Since your mother is so open minded about these kind of things maybe you could talk to her about it as well, and get some advise. I know most teens dont want that from mom but we have been right where you are! :) also as stated before if your not ready then try not to arouse your boyfriend kissing is ok but when you feel its starting to get hot and heavy but the breaks on. Also explain to your boyofriend that your just not ready, and do this when things are calm and not after turning him down, that way he knows. I had sex at 13, and i was NOT ready at all. It caused a lot of hearbreak for me and some other people, trust your gut and dont worrie what anyone is going to think.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (24 December 2010):
 You did NOTHING wrong. When a man gets all riled up and excited then is left hanging, the very worst he will suffer is a little frustration. Jonas is right that sometimes men don't know when to stop and might push you further than you want to go, and the closer to sex you let it get, the more the guy is going to want to go all the way. But that's just him being horny and you're WELL within your rights to put the brakes on. PLEASE do not have sex unless you WANT to. (And in case you didn't realize, "blue balls" as men like to whine about are a myth. Getting him horny then asking him to stop will NOT hurt him in ANY way.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): From a male perspective, I could find this upsetting as well. But realistically, you did the right thing. If he really cares about you, then sex is the least important part of any relationship. I agree with the previous poster too, explain to him how you feel about this.
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