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writes:Hi, i really need help. my brother and i used to play together, princes and princesses, but it became more than that, we started kissing passionatly and (i cant believe im admitting this) i sat on top of him. ive always loved him but only as a brother. it makes me feel physically sick when i think about it. ive begun to feel sick every time i am intimate with a boy, and due to my psycology course, i believe this is due to underlying issues to do with my guilt and disgust at myself. thing is, now that ive figured this out, how do i overcome it??? please help me, i'll never be happy in a relationship if i cant stay in one for more than 5 minutes.thanks.XxxX
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reader, Dr. Merrick Way  +, writes (3 February 2009):
Tell ur brother how you feel, and if he feels the same way..then you both need to move to different states.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): You're not the first person to find yourself in this sort of situation and you certainly won't be the last. I think perhaps you need to ease up on yourself. You're punishing yourself for no good reason. The past is in the past. Maybe if I had a sister the same might have happened to me. I don't think it's any big deal, really I don't.
I'm no psychiatrist, but perhaps you need to exorcise from your brain what happened I don't know how long ago. I mean, you sat on him. So what? You kissed passionately. So what? Think of that episode as practice for later on. Maybe talk to your brother about it - maybe he wants to clear his brain of it too. Letting this fester inside your head is not doing you any good at all.
If it's really affecting your life, go and see your GP who can put you in touch with the appropriate people to put you out of your misery. They are bound by a code of confidentiality so you don't have any worries about them repeating anything said in the consulting room.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Hey.How long ago was this?When you say you sat on him did you actually have sex or just sit there?Well what ever the details are it sounds like this is effecting you pretty bad. I think that you should talk to someone, someone you can really trust.I know this sounds like it might be to much but if it is really affecting your ability to have intimate relationships hen you should maybe talk to a councilor. They may be able to tell you ways to cope with it and how to be intimate with someone without it upsetting you.Im sorry I dont really know what to say to help but I do honestly understand you.I wish you the best! =]xoxo
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