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writes:Hi,Basically I am stuck in this situation because I always try to be the cool one. The one how never complains and keeps going on good terms with every one, but this time I feel sad. Sad despite I never show it and I am always laughing and smiling. So it is going to be a surprise for him.I was very much in love with this guy and I am pretty sure he was in love with me until he pulled back. From then he still traveled to see me and we slept together but nothing was the same. We slept together two weeks ago when I was around and it made me feel sick because I felt like a random girl. It is difficult to explain but we were f*cking and in the past he used to have this silly smile when we made love that made me feel special.He tells me all the time he loves me and how important it is we are friends. Sometimes I think it is a mix of guilt and affection but maybe I am being unfair here. Reality is I am afraid we are going to became strangers and to see our relationship diminish every day makes me feel sad.So i need to do something and these are the options I have:1- Disappear. But i guess I will always wait him to contact me.2- Talk to him, explaining what I feel and ask him for time. I guess he will think I am nagging and annoying.3- Send him an email instead of talking to him.4- Go with the flow and continue to sleep with him hoping my feelings to fade and finally I would not care anymore.5- Trying to be "friends" without the benefits. I care of him and I wish him well and I would like to keep him in my life. I am just afraid this is going to be a road to deception.What should I do ? Other options ?Thanks !!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (11 August 2011):
 I would say start off with option 2. And if things don't work out, then choose option 5.
There's something that's causing your relationship to change. So you should definitely talk to him to find out what's going on. Tell him you want that love spark back in your relationship- and overall you want the both of you to be happy. If things don't improve, without any effort on his part, then you should consider just being friends with him.
Hope this helps! :^)
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