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*lle08
writes:my boyfriend is really depressed, he is going through a divorce, has a 4 year old little boy, his job is not secure and therefore money is extremely tight for him so he has the added stress of not being able to pay the morgage and bills, he has his mother constantly on his case about everything, constantly ringing and txtn him, and his best friend on his case, obviously because they care. Then there is me and him- we laugh all the time, and really care for each other- things between me and him are great, both really caring etc, although should i say were... he has just text me saying its not fare on me to be going threw all this with him as we have only been together a few mnths, but when he is sorted and is better hopes maybe we could try again.. im gutted.And so worryd bout him, he just wants to be on his own, and has also told his parents and best friend to leave him alone. i dunno wot to do?....He wakes up crying during the night and everything, just wants to sleep etc..
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reader, elle08 +, writes (18 April 2008):
elle08 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for that, i have already asked him to see the doctor and asked him not to push people who care about him away..iv offered my help over and over again aswell as going threw the hurt myself, and all i get is "i just want to be on my own" so im just going to have to try and leave him as he wants. Im just so worried about him
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (18 April 2008):
 He needs to seek help the doctor will be able to help. Ask him to go and see the doctor tell him ti's for the best and it will help him feel more relaxed and not as depressed with what they give him of course. Probably anti depressents.
Leave him for a little while to sort his mind and he will come back and call you when he feels ready.Stand by your man
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): You should continue to be there to support him but what is he doing to help himself. He needs to stop with the pity party and get out there to make a change. First he should think about his son and his son's future, then he needs to pull himself up by his bootstraps and get a secure job or for the time being get a second job. Divorce is hard but sinking into a depression does not help. Just be there and don't allow him to be sad all the time and don't be an enabler. Make some suggestions and push him out into the world. This is life and he has to be a man about it.
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