I feel my bf doesn't appreciate me and the relationship has become a struggle.

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I don't know if this is a valid question to the rest of this group. My bf brings me flowers and likes to take me out to dinner. Yet, when we're eating dinner he always makes a fuss about how pricy the food is-- a huge turn off. He just makes me feel like I'm not good enough for a plate of food at a descent price. He always keeps on telling me,"I do this for you... I do this for you..." It feels horrible to hear that. I do so much for him but he too doesn't appreciate me. I don't remind him what I do for him all the time-- only when he tells me he does so much for me. He says he loves me and when I try to end the relationship he starts to cry :/ It's complicated because he is a nice person to others. I think he is immature, honestly. We've been going out for 9 months. My mother is always saying,"Poor boy... you are so vicious Andrea." He likes playing the helpless game-- like the watery eyes and the," I wuv yah!" It's so confusing. I don't know why I'm sticking around. He whines too much and says the world is a pit of human flesh with corporations and uncouth beings. It's depressing and his mother is odd-- she is so lazy. They are really poor. So it's hard. My bf is a hard worker too. He buys me gifts and flowers when he can. He got me a promise ring for Christmas. He has a thing for taking pictures of himself and posting them on his walls and desktop. He tells me that a have some blubber at my midsection. He says," Why don't you do this...?" As to improve my looks for him. He says that he treats me this way because he just tends to fancy good looking women from TV or magazines. What do to!

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