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writes:I understand that most women have uneven breasts. I have always noticed mind. I have no quite a complext about since my female doctor commented about them. I have been experiencing pain in the bigger and today thought the pain may be due to the size. Before I thought it might be something else and saw doctor as I have cancer in the family.Before three kids I had no breast now one is bigger than the other and I feelreally conscienous. I am having relationship problems at the moment and have not been intimate for over ayear so I am fel really unloved and ugly althought I know that I am not really.In the past I have done modelling shoots so that I can see myself. I feel rather overweight at the moment and just misterable.Have anyone got similiar experiences to share?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (13 June 2009):
 Hello, my dear...
While my breasts are surprisingly (and unusually) symmetrical, I have been working with/around/for breasts for years. In the last two years I've been working at Victoria's Secret, making breasts look normal, addressing everyday issues with breasts and hearing endless stories, seeing endless bodies. Before that I had a stint at a strip club where I saw more naked women than probably most men do in a lifetime. Men just love naked women. Period.
So, I am more than familiar with all kinds of breasts. Big ones, small ones, uneven ones, droopy ones, perky ones, fake ones, crooked ones, ones that are close set, ones that have 8 inches in between.... I have seen all sorts in my day and let me tell you - they are ALL normal. Not to mention, at the strip club? They are ALL appreciated. Men love breasts. End of story. Doesn't matter what the hell they look like, they just love breasts.
But, as for size. Having up to one cup size difference between the two is not only normal, it's almost typical. There are plenty of ways to conquer this problem under clothes - you can get silicone padding to add to your bra cup to even them out. Physically, you can get surgery (expensive!!!). But mostly, it's just a matter of accepting them, embracing them and loving them. They are what they are, and they are NORMAL!!!
Your problem is that your fella is not making you feel beautiful, he's not boosting your confidence. You've had three children and your breasts have been through a lot of changes... if he is not making you feel 100%, it is probably not due to your breasts, but much deeper issues. I think you and your husband need to have a deep talk, and perhaps you need to see a counselor to boost your self esteem and to work out any issues you may have with yourself and with your current relationship.
I do think that "anon" had a great thought - losing weight will make you feel better about yourself and give you a big step forward in gaining that confidence!!
Go for it sister, good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): As women, I think we are made to feel that if we are not some model sort of perfection as we see in magazines, television and the movies, that we are inadequate for anyone to care about us. Every person has things about themselves they wish were a little different. No person is perfect. The next guy that you feel critizes you for being less than perfect, ask yourself, does he measure up to the male ideal of perfection? Does he look like Brad Pitt, George Clooney or whomever your celebrity crush is? Throw it back at him. "Well dear, I will work on my thighs as soon as you work on your love handles." :-)I am in my twenties and I am suppose to be at the peak of my physical brillance but even I wish I was a little more fit, that my skin had more of an even tone, that I didn't have this incurable rash on one foot. Yeah I am human too, and no matter how many people admire me and tell me how attractive I am, I never believe it. I think that I have ignored the positive compliments I have received about myself and only paid attention to the negative messages received by men I have cared about. Sometimes I find myself asking vainly, "why wasn't I enough for him", "if I was enough then he would have stayed and he would not have been able to toss me to the side like that." The truth is that when you feel this way you have to introduce more possitive influences into your life. Ignore everyone else and move closer to the person you want to become by taking on different hobbies, associating with different people and making healthier choices.If you feel bad about being overweight then start eating more fruits and veggies with lean protein like chicken breasts and fish. Go to the gym a couple times of week and do physical activities on the weekend. Get a new hair cut or buy some perfume...just do something for you.
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