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writes:Im not very happy at school, i havent been for a while. I hang around with about 6-7 people but i always manage to feel left out. i never get invited to sleepovers or shopping trips. i rarely get included in teh conversations. i usually ignore it and just get on with school but ever few months i get abit upset over it again. My mum has noticed now. she contacted my head of year. I have a meeting with her and she wants me to go to connextions and sortt out my confidence. head of year suggested i could be given a job at lunch so i dont have to socialise. But then i'd get bullied for like working in the library. I know they are only trying to help but its making things worse. I can cope feeling lonely and left out most of the time but now i dont want to go to school at all.help?? i tried telling my mum this she wont listen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): "But then i'd get bullied for like working in the library" - this is the main phrase. You're being too concerned with what the others may think and thus want to suit your actions so that it won't put you in a "bad" light. You may feel isolated and misunderstood because you probably have different likes than the others but in time differences will be less noticeable as you learn to "adapt" to the context, not "become" it - if you're not faithful to who you are and do things merely to please the others you won't be happy. If though you think there are aspects you should change, change them. I wouldn't involve adults, would be worse if they knew something bothers you. Don't blame yourself for the situations, and remember at your age they're more likely to follow a person who's boasting about the splendid party he's organised at his house last night than one who complains about feeling left out. So you must try and be stronger.
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