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writes:Hi I have been in a long distance relationship for almost two and a half years. My boyfriend did most of the travelling as I do not drive, and I occasionally stayed at his on weekends (around once every couple of months) getting there by train.I have three children from a previous relationship, and he has two children from past relationships also, we get along with all the children and all are happy.Three months ago, his son went to live with him, and the situation has changed. Now unless I can find the extra money to travel to his more often we can only see each other once maybe twice a month. I have not been able to find the extra money and cannot see it happening in the near future. He has a very busy work schedule, and now with the added responsibility of living with his son, there is no way we can see each other more. At the risk of sounding selfish, I am not happy with the situation, I love this man very much and do not want to lose him, but I do have fears.I feel that if we see each other less, we may start to drift apart, that stems from an affair he had last year which lasted three weeks, the reason he gave was because he was lonely living where he was without me near. We managed (I thought) to put this behind us, but now I'm beginning to wonder if history will repeat itself becuase of the current situation.Can I please have an outsiders view, as to what would be best?We cannot live together as he has already stated in the past that he is not ready to live with anyone.Thankyou
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reader, XxAnGelXxx +, writes (25 February 2009):
 Hey :) i'm pretty much a master at long distance relationships, i've had several, lol ok so since he's stated that he's not ready to live with anyone, that's obviously not an option, but have you considered moving to the same town or a town near by? Seeing one another would be a hell of a lot easier that way. But everyone knows that can't just happen with a click of the fingers. So in the mean time until you two come up with a way to see eachother on a regular basis keeping daily contact is essential, whether it be a 20 min phone call a day, emails, text messages here and there or even a combination of all of them It'll keep you both close :) hope that helps and good luck :) x
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