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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:This is kind of an awkward situation for me. My boyfriend has a four year old son. Well anyways, he brings me his ex's house with him to visit his son. I find it rather awkward to be hanging around an ex of his all of the time. I don't really talk to her and she doesn't talk to me. I try to make conversation but only turns into a two or three sentence converse. The ex is always asking him to do things with her and their son together. For some reason I seem to be a third wheel. I want to talk to my boyfriend about the ex thing. I think he needs more father and son bonding not father son and ex bonding. Plus it seems rather odd and awkward. I am just not sure how to bring it up and how to explain the awkwardness to my boyfriend. I do also kind of think his ex wants him in her life, I feel as if that is her way of trying to patch things up?
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (23 July 2012):
 Just tell him and the sooner the better. Just be calm and rational about it and he shoukd understand.
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reader, Abella +, writes (22 July 2012):
 i do not think he wants the ex in his life, but he know his ex very well. He knows his ex has not moved on, and wants him back. So he takes you along to make it clear to his ex that he has a new relationship. He is using you to shield him from her efforts to get back with him.
As the child gets older there will be more opporunites to go on outings with father and son.
But right now she hopes that her 'four year old is still a little baby' premise will prevail. Thus forcing her husband to visit her.
Maybe offer to have the 4year old stay overnight Fri and Sat overnight so that she has an opportunity to socialize. That way she may meet a new guy and so take the pressure off your boy friend?
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