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writes: in the begining of july i got back with my x girlfriend after being broke up for almost a year and a half(i broke up with her and couple months later i noticed i loved her too much and regreted it and contacted her and she was with someone else, and i always regreted it)anyway memorial day weekend i ran into her by acciedent in a store and we exchanged numbers and started talking again. we started seeing eachother alot and agreed on taking things slow. i was all for that. so we started having sex she seemed very happy until about a month into it i had job and money problems. she was very upset to see me with problems like that. i did everything possible to make money and i did, i got a great job making 55k+ a year and i started to go to school for a degree. but ever since then she wont have sex with me, she says im not what she thought i was, and that im not ready for a serious relationship. she has treated me like complete trash the entire summer and i weent along with it cause i love her so much and am hoping she would give in.well a month ago she said she cant do this anymore and she needs a break, so after alot of talking i agreed to the break. weird part is nothing really changed, we still talk and see eachother just as much as we did when we were together. its very confusing and if i try to talk about whats going on with us she just get really upset and mad and says i need to change some things about me and she says she also needs to change some things about her self. she admited to treated me bad over the summer and she said she needs to work on it.well right now i just dont know what to think anymore, its so hard, my mind is going crazy. She isnt really giving in. i mean when we were first togetehr she was great, she really showed me that she cared, she made it obvious that she loved me.but now she doesnt act that way at all, and its killing me to hear her telll me that she loves me but i dont beleive it cause shes not treating me like she does. like she did before.i havwe all these feelings for her, i told her im ready for a serious relationship and im ready to settle down and start a family (and i know thats exactly what she wants right now) but i feel like im wasting my time i feel like she has me hanging around until she meets someone else. im horrified to be with her and to have her say its over and she met someone else, im thinking to my self i should end it now and try to move on BUT i dont want to be the one that ends it again you know this is so crazy...i can go on and on, theres so much to say but this is enough for now by the way im 25 and shes 24
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reader, Toria +, writes (25 September 2006):
 Well from what it sounds like she is blaming you for the reasons as to why she is being the way she is with you, she is treating you badly and not wanting to say what the real reason is she is finding fault in you which is unfair as if she isn't doing enough to hurt you already she is trying to kind of kick you while you are already down.
You need to think about what you want and if you really want to be with her if she treats you this way as noone deserves to be treated badly by anyone let alone someone that is mean't to love you.
I have always found that when I want out of a relationship I start seeing faults in the other person that I never noticed before I'm not saying this is what she is doing but it might well be.
Maybe you should initiate a break from each other and see how much she is bothered by that and see if she bothers to contact you or make any move to sort things out with you but you are going to have to at least act strong.
Good luck :o)
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