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writes:My wife and I are having a big problem. Over the past 3 years I sometimes drank too much. I no longer drink at all now. (I was a fall asleep drinker)I have never been abusive, sarcastic or bad to my wife in any way. I have always supported her in everything she has done.We ended up having an e mail fight when I was angry from nicotine withdrawal and she said she looked down on me, had no respect for me, did not see me as an equal and that I had been emotionally and mentally absent from 21 years of marriage! This is obviously said to me in anger but she has had a habit saying nasty things to me all through our marriage. She never takes anything back that she says it. Says that she always means what she has just said and has apologised to me only 3 times in 21 years.I love her desperately and 80% of our marriage has been wonderful. We normally have a tremendous sex life. I think she is trying to drive me away from her by saying no flowers, no phone calls and emails of 2 or 3 lines that are very terse from her. She says we might separate and treats me as though I am a stranger to her.I work away from home and when I left home for work the last time she would not let me hug her goodbye and it almost broke my heart. We have both been faithful to each other and I thought we were for ever best friends, lover etc.I feel like she has just died and the grief is horrible.Can any one pleasae help me?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 November 2008):
You don't seem to know what you have done wrong.
Just that you used to fall asleep when drunk. I don't really think she'd this be this angry because of that.
Ask her calmly what it is you have done, specifically, to make her feel this way.
Once you know that you can go about fixing it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, wayblonde6 +, writes (18 November 2008):
Ask her what's wrong.talk to her. Nothing out of anger just a nice calm talk.
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