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writes:I've got a good friend whose been away for ten days without being in touch with me until she returned, even though I sent her a text wishing that she was having a good time there. I wasn't too impressed with this and felt even worse when my Mum and her boyfriend kept asking me how she was and if I'd heard anything etc. Since then, Mum's been annoyed and went on and on about it which made me more annoyed as I agree with her that my friend is not respecting me and indicating that I am not important or something. Now that she's back, I have spoken to her about this and all she said was that she forgot I text her and that she was busy enjoying herself, like you do when on holiday. This response however, is not very convincing to me but I feel bad to stop hanging out with her as we get on pretty well. But at the same time, Mum and her bf are against me about it. Should I be annoyed with her for not replying me? Is it true that she isn't doing what a friend should do? And should I stop seeing her to make peace with my family? Should I 'test' her to find out how good our friendship really is? I don't know what to do. Please help. Thank you.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (22 June 2009):
 To be honest your friend is probably telling the truth. She was having way good of a time and just got caught up and forget to text back.
No harm done, she didnt do anything bad, she didnt murder anyone, she just didnt text back.
Dont judge your friend on this alone, and tell your parents to stop getting involved in your friendship, its non of their business if your mate does or does not text, this is between the two of you.
your parents sound controlling and they need to respect the privacy between friends.
i think u shud forgive your friend, other than this incident she hasnt done anything else from what you've written to delibrately hurt you.
good friends are hard to find, so dont let her go!
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reader, I am Othello +, writes (22 June 2009):
 A friend is a friend. It doesn't mean that they are good for each other - but I am shocked that your mum and her boyfriend have such a strong view on this. Do they believe she has a bad influence on you? Think back a moment, has your friend been there for you? Are you always chatting at school? Does your friend tell you to smoke or drink? (-probably not... but had to ask). She is your FRIEND, friends forgive and forget - unless it happens CONSTANTLY, which from what I have heard is not true.Having friends is important - was something bothering her maybe? You should ask, and if not - like I said - forgive and forget, and she will like you all the more for it!
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reader, starfairy +, writes (22 June 2009):
 Ignore your mom and boyfriend and do what you feel is best. Maybe she just needs some space, let her come to you.
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