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writes:Okay, I'm sixteen years old and I know a lot of people are probably going to think I'm just a stupid little girl but here's the thing:I feel like I'm ready to have sex, but I'm not in a relationship of any sort and I'm really unhappy with my body and I'm not sure if I would feel comfortable around anyone naked. I've told my friends how I feel and they say I'm being stupid and should just wait because according to them people who have sex at this age are sluts. But I feel like I want sex a lot of the time and I'm scared. I have a guy friend who isn't a virgin who has recently told me I'm on his 'I would' list, so should I ask him or wait?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): your issues with body image will probably go away, at least partly, once you're in a committed relationship -- that's what i found, and i felt exactly the same as you did. this might not apply to you, but i do think it'd be better for you to wait until you've been going out with someone nice, who makes you feel good about yourself and your body, for a while.
and if you're feeling a bit sexually frustrated, there's nothing wrong with helping yourself out.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 June 2012):
My feeling is that you're not as ready as you think you are. I think that a lot of people think they're ready, but maybe sometimes are moving too fast.
The fact is, sex will involve you getting naked. If you aren't comfortable with that, or your body, then you'll find out very quickly that you're not ready and it will be something you'll regret. I think that you're better off waiting, just working on being happier with your body, and then you'll really be ready.
On a separate note, forget losing it to this 'guy' friend of yours. He hasn't a shred of class, and you can be sure that if you have him as your first, it'll be about him having his way and you going through the motions. A good guy won't come up to you with a 'I would' list, and he won't put you on it. The right guy will only have eyes for you.
So, I suppose what I'm saying is wait. Wait until you're more confident, wait until you meet a better guy. It'll be worth it.
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