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writes:Ok, this is my first time posting, i have been strugling with a issue for a while now, a while back i dated this girl for about 2 years sex was great...so i thought. during the relationship shes at her frinds house at a small party and anounces private info to everone in ear shot that i have a small penis, and that she has been faking orgasims, i was later at this firend of hers house with my gf and few other friends when her friend blurts out the private information that my gf shared with her, and putting me on the spot with everyone around, well i was shocked and it been haunting me i have done research and read books blah blah blah im 7x5 and from what i read im not small but still feel like it, cant rid myself of this feeling, tried other methods to please her, but none work, is she faking? i tried asking her what she likes but she responds everyhitng is good, i have found out later that she was sleeping around on me, we broke up and are now back together 2 years later, what can i do to rid myself of this haunting about size, and does this sound like someone worth a second chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): Hey man every guy thinks size matters. To me i think it matters also but you got a bigger wang then me so i wouldnt worry about it. mine is barely reaching 6" off by like 2mm but whatever. i've tried many things to make it bigger and yeah alot of it is complete bull shit. only thing that i've seen any progress is Jelqing. Its an ancient chinese exercise that works but you will only see results after many months of work. It is high maintanence and requires a lot of disiplin. But yeah from the first girl i slept with to the 3rd wich is the girl i am with now (i know i havent been with many but whatever beats all my friends who are still virgins at age 18+) the first girl was by far the biggest slut i ever known. after sleeping with her like 2x the first time i never came she said later on i was too small but i was like "No. Your just too loose" then came up with the nick name Loose Lacy. It was like throwing a hotdog down a hallway. but she started having sex at age 11 (i was 15 so was she it lasted not more then a month and a half). then the next girl i dated was a really beautiful blond with huge tits. She told me the first guy she fucked had a bigger dick then me. So me feeling like crap (even to this day) and self conscious of my dick I started researching about penis growth. Well let me tell you there is A LOT OF BULL SHIT.And now with this beautiful young girl I am with now hasn't said anything about my size (atleast not that i know of) most likely she has said something to her friends cause ALL girls talk about that shit. But hey the way I see it as if you get to stick it in a chick then you don't got any problem :P I've been Jelqing since the new year as a new year resolution gunna see how the results are by the summer cause I want a change for me. I quit doing drugs and smoking weed. All i do is work out and jelq. Also the good thing about Jelqing is that it makes you last a HELL of a lot of longer. Me and my g/f noticed when i stopped my endurance died completely. I was once again a 2minute man. wich sucks cause it makes girls think you cant satisfy them with your dick (cause a lot of them like to have sex more then any other way to be plesured). So yeah. To conclusion endurance is the most important part. And all women have their "OWN" G-Spot. All you gotta do is finger it out ;) *wink* *wink*.Thats about it.So this is my info from a 19 year old male who is dating a 16 year old female. hope this was useful ciao.
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reader, c'girl  +, writes (23 January 2007):
boy you r crazy!y r u wit this girl, if u know u don't make her happy then y b wit her, find someone that will make u happy and makes u fell good about yourself and that does not faking it. find someone that u make happy in everyway
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reader, CarrieMagdelene +, writes (22 January 2007):
 Wow, that must have been SO embarassing! :( Sorry you had to go through that. Sadly, to me, when it comes to sex it's BOTH the size and what you can do with it. And really, if you're 7/4, you've got nothing to be embarassed about, considering the average size is 6.4 inches long and a little over 3.8 inches around...You're above average, friend! :) My boyfriend is 7 and a quarter at his biggest, and it satisfies me just fine, so perhaps she's just looser than she thinks. Vaginas have a lot of elasticity (sorry if my spelling is off!), but after a few rather large male partners (bigger than you), or child birth, it can loosen up a little. Perhaps it is her, not you. :)
Also, stimulation in the clitoris is key. Good luck! -Carrie
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reader, Abacadaba  +, writes (22 January 2007):
 it not size that matters, its the way you use it. if you can use the way you thrust to make her orgasm, it doesnt matter if your 4 inches or 40, its all to do with the technique
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reader, chocolate-love +, writes (22 January 2007):
its true size doesnt matter; its what you do with it. the girl may have just been drunk and blurted it out at the party is also a possibility? Also yes she is a cheat so just dump her mate and find someone who appreicates you and your penis ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): If you're small, I must be super friggin tiny! [wink]
The thing is however, size DOES matter. Think about it. If you're 2 inches and your girlfriend loves deep penetration, how will you satisfy her? What if you have a 14 inch penis and it's way to thick to even go into her?
I say, if you know what to do with anything between 4 and 7 inches of manliness, then really, that's all it counts. All but one of my ex's has had no complaints with me. That one that did, well she was 'dead fish' anyway. [shrugs] 8]
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): Hi, your story reminded me of something that happened to me a while back. Some years ago I had this boyfriend I was head over heals for, sex was amazing (although I didn't have much to compare it with, looking back I still think it was good), but once, clubbing with my female friends, we were in the toilets and someone asked me about him. it just happened that the night before we were both quite uninspired so we fell asleep without reaching orgasm, and not sure why, that's the first thing that came up to my mind so I said something in the lines of, "could have been better", didn't want to keep on talking about it, so changed subject and thought that was it.But then, one of my friends was dating a friend of him, so at one point in their relationship he couldn't get it up, so her response was to tell her guy, not to worry, it happens to everyone and proceeded to tell him that I had said that sex with my bf was no good. It all got to my bf ears and after a huge argument we parted ways. I can see (and could then as well, even though i didn't want to admit it) that I should have been more respectful with him, he didn't deserve that specially since it wasn't even true. I guess I was being silly and in a way, despite being in the toilets of a club, kinda of thought that it was a confidence to my friend that she was not going to repeat. it all escalated way more than i could have predicted, and when confronted with it, instead of accepting my responsability, I tried to deny everything, but never occurred to me to tell him that I thought sex was great!My point is, don't take too seriously what she said about your penis, she may not even mean it. I'm sure it's normal size and that she enjoyed sex with you. It might just be her way of justifying in her mind and to her friends why is she sleeping around and cheating on you.Personally, I don't believe in second chances for cheaters but it's really up to you, you're the one who knows her and whether she's deserving to be in your life or not. Hope it helped!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): I can't believe you're even asking the question. She doesn't sound like a person that was worth giving a first chance to. She obviously doesn't repect you, doesn't love, isn't honest with you and doesn't care if she hurts you... is that really someone you want to be with?It doesn't sound like she has much respect for herself either, just blurting out both of your business like that.You need to be with someone that's going to love you for you, and not the size of your penis and what you can do for them sexually. When you are truly in love and loved, bodies are a bonus and physical love is the ultimate expression of what you're feeling for one another and believe me, size.. looks.. possessions, it all doesn't matter because the act itself will feel and be amazing. I'm sorry you had to experience that but it's time to find your .. uh hum.. pride and move on.Good luck!
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (22 January 2007):
 It is true that size doesn't matter. It isn't a question you should ask though because that would probably get you a slap (along with asking spit or swallow).
You have no need to worry about size, everybody is different so be happy with what you have.
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reader, notlamc  +, writes (22 January 2007):
 Hi!
Let it go. She was obviously immature - Real women keep things like that to themselves, true or false.
But good news for you though - Blurting that out was a sign of insecurity and now her reputation has been damaged.
The men would of thought she was a sl*g and the women would of probably been mortified to hear a woman speak like that.
The point is that for 2 years you sexually satisfied her - How could she possibly stay with you that amount of time and then say that?
Don't worry.
She was trying to make you feel bad in front of other women and any women that paid attention to it were obviously the same mentality as your (hopefully ex) girl and not worth the bother.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): Mate i wouldnt even look twice at this girl let alone be with her! Once a cheat always a cheat. She also has no respect for u considerin she's blabbering inimate things to every! Forget her and move on!
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reader, Drs Lizzi +, writes (22 January 2007):
Just remember, size doesn't matter. Its sounds like this gf is a right little madam! it is quite brave of you to say what alot of men feel! There is no such thing as average so there can't be a big or small. it sounds like your ex had alot of insicurities in the bedroom and was masking it with you! Please don't let this affect your confidence. just remember that you can always find a nicer girl while your ex is been unrespected and is being tret like the local bike!
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