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writes:I always feel low about myself Im 17 and i just cant find anything right about myself i compare myself to absolutely everyone ! I think for split seconds i look ok then when i see other girls my spirit goes well down and it is just so horrible. I got two friends and they r really pretty and they get all the attention when we are together and i just feel like im invisible like i dont fit in anywhere.Its like this all the time now and i can't shake it :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): Ever thought there are guys that feel the same way. Bet a pound to a penny you are all trying to look good infront of a few specific guys. Try one of the rest of the bunch you may be pleasantly suprised.
Good luck
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reader, tweetytoby11  +, writes (26 September 2008):
 I don't care what anyone says everyone is beautiful in their own way. You just have to find it. About fitting in Why? there is nothing wrong with being different and standing out. Make a list of all the things that are pretty about yourself like your eyes,skin,hair,lips,legs,boobs,feet,toes,butt hey there is something if not plenty of things dont doubt yourself at all. Being beautiful isnt just about whats on the outside either.Now find that confidence stand infront of that mirror and be proud of the way you look and make all of them know that you are beautiful just the way you are and you could fit in but you rather stand out!
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reader, eleonor rigby  +, writes (25 September 2008):
Hey!! I've had the same problem when I was around your age, so I can understand how difficult it's for you to feel comfortable around people since most of the time you feel like you're being judged or something. But hey! this is just a stage that most people go through. The first thing you have to change is your own opinion about yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror, pretty closely, take your time, look at your eyes, nose, lips, everything and find out what you like the most. Try on a few outfits, see what kind of clothing makes you look better, get a nice haircut, take care of your skin, and the most important thing: CONVINCE YOURSELF (YOU AND NO ONE ELSE) HOW BEAUTIFUL YOU ARE!! Many people say, that the important thing is what you have in your heart, yeah yeah it's true, but I think that the best thing to do in this case, is to start thinking only about you, be a little selfish, work hard not only on the external part of you, but build a personality. Try to get along with people, be smart and nice, when you smile and treat people propperly they instantly approach to you. Don't forget to look everybody in the eyes, don't feel bad, always chin up. And as for your friends, don't compare yourself in a negative way, think of what you have that is better.
Something else that I consider important is not sharing this kind of things to friends, may be to your mom or someone you really really REALLY trust, because it can make you vulnerable in front of people. Everyone should look at you as someone strong, self sufficient. I believe that people think of you the way YOU think of yourself, if you seem to be shy, lonely, and with a low selfsteem they will automatically treat you with pity or push you away.
I've worked on myself, yeah my friends are beautiful (VERY), but so am I! I have my own personality, I don't do things because everyone else is doing them. I take care of my skin and weight, but I'm very healthy, eat everything, exercise, I'm nice to people, I study, and have lots and lots of fun. I met many new people, you should do that too, make your friends circle bigger, try not being shy and remember you are beautiful, you just have to believe it so other people can look at you the same way.
Oops... I think it's too long :s But well... hope you feel better!! have a great day!!
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reader, Jadeyyy +, writes (25 September 2008):
Its totally normal to feel this way. Loads of girls feel like tht even tho they are usually the prettiest in the friendship group. When you are out how do u no tht guys arnt checking u out?? Maybe they are
Why dont you do ur hair reli nice and apply make up... maybe then u would c the attention tht u r probably already getting
I hope i helped
Jade x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): sometimes people feel a bit lost. whenever i feel lost, i tend to clam up and stop talking to people- and my friends pick up on that straight away. everyone does even those really confident and clever and pretty. we all have our ups and downs.
you are probably a normal girl but a bit too self consicous about yourself
the thing is when you are with your friends- do you tend to be quiet? because people will be drawn to people who are loud and welcoming. if you are, just try and involve yourself within the conversation a bit more. tell a stupid joke to break the ice or something and laugh about it. dont be afraid to laugh at yourself, because people will then laugh with you :D
be confident and you will find someone who shares the same things as you do.
networking is hard and it can feel a bit fake at the beginning but you'll get used to it ;)
hope this has helped :D
xx
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