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writes:I feel like I have to choose between my relationship with my bf and my career. Heres the story. Basically I live in one town and my bf lives in another. Im 20 and hes 23. I am currently completeing a degree at university, therefore am stuck living where I am at the moment, atleast until i graduate. I will be graduating in december. After i graduate, we planned to move in together. However, the thing is, I have now been offered a great position to further my studies to the next stage after a degree. Its such a great opportunity and only 10 people from my university get offered to do this each year. If i accept the offer, it will take me another year atleast. The distance is already putting a major strain on our relationship, i dont knwo if it will last over another year if i choose to stay here. I feel like i have to choose between him and my career. I really want to accept this offer because its a great opportunity and i feel so lucky to have it and would feel stupid to turn it down. Howevr at the same time i really care about my bf and want to be with him and im afraid if i choose to study more he might see it as me choosing it over him. I have always put my studies before guys. Therefore i feel like i have missed out alot in life. my bf is great though, we have such similar values its amazing. so i dont want to lose him. sometimes i fear that if i keep putting my studies first over my relationships i will end up alone with a high paying job- but no1 toshare my life with and i dont want that. what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): If it were me, I'd go with the career move. If he loves you, and wants to stay together, he'll make the necessary adjustments to be with you. Otherwise the chances are good that you'll someday regret turning down this great opportunity. Good luck to you!
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