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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:HelloMy issue is that I have a really nice boyfriend who is a very happy guy, most of the time, which is good, but I feel guilty when I have bad day/tough week or am just emotional because I feel like I probably break the happiness. Most of the time I do my best with a positive attitude but he's just better at it than me I guess. He is patient and reassuring but I still feel guilty, like I want to be the best me, put together and confident and always positive, and thats what I want him to see but sometimes I'm not put together. Sometimes I am quite honestly a mess. He never complained but I just feel guilty. I also feel guilty if I ask him for anything. And if he tries to do things for me when I sick. Not just a bit guilty, it's quite a lot. I feel like I don't deserve. I also don't want him to think I would ever take advantage of him. What can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): Yeesh, you guys must be a happy couple if "I'm not happy as him sometimes" and "I don't want to take advantage of him" is the most pressing concern you have about your relationship right now. Honestly speaking this website is full of disasters and misguided feelings but you're one of the first posts I've seen that seems to indicate that you have something good going there.All people have their ups and downs, although we're more or less trained to keep our composure in front of others, so he could just be trying to be putting up a front. Also maybe consider the fact that the reason he seems happy is because he is happy to be with you.He's lucky to have someone like you who's thinking about this sort of thing to this level, so I wouldn't worry about it.
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