New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login245057 questions, 1084625 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

I feel left out.

Tagged as: Family<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (13 October 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 13 October 2007)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

is it to much to ask my for husband to involve me in his son's(my step son)life? like what ever decision he makes with his son's mother at least i should be notified. i feel horoble by me demanding such a thing but i thought it will make things better that way, i mean if i know every thing then i wouldn't feel left out or something. i feel it will ease my bad feeling i have towards her. i can't stand seing my husband talking to his son's mother. i am not sure how to work this one out please help...

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, Oblivia Sweden +, writes (13 October 2007):

Oblivia agony auntI agree with Friend Tom. I would also like to add, as having experience of having stepparents, that it is perfectly alright for you and your husband's son to create a relation on your own. My stepparents did that and as an adult I now feel very happy they inserted this extra dimension of having had grown ups so close who treated me with love and respect and also taught me to respect them. When the son stays/lives with you of course it is your business what is going on since you are one of the adults in the house making up rules about the life there. It is only good for the kid, I think, to learn that he has to be considerate of you even though you are not his mother. You don't say his age and what kind of decisions you want to be part of though, so it is hard to give specific advices on how to do this.

The jealousy towards your husband's ex-wife you must get over though. That will not do good in neither your relationship to your husband, nor to the kid.

Wish you luck!

<-- Rate this answer

A reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007):

You don't say, but I assume the son is living with you and your husband. I think your request is reasonable. You are involved in the primary guardianship as well as the boy's father. You should be included in decisions concerning him. Explain this tactfully to your husband, avoiding anger. And work on your own feelings as well. As long as the boy is a minor and your husband's responsibility, he will always have reasons to talk with the mother. You should be able to accept this.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "I feel left out. "

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.0625337000019499!