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female
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22-25,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,ok well, I wanted some advice. I have two best friends, a girl and a boy and the boy is my boyfriend, we are all very close. But whenever I see my friend hanging out with my boyfriend I get jealous, and I know it's stupid and I know that nothing will happen, well I trust them enough to know nothing will happen. But it still doesn't stop me from feeling jealous. I don't know what to do. Both of my friends already know about it, and they joke around and hug and stuff. I don't think anything will happen, but I still feel jealous and I hate feeling jealous. Any advice would be greatly appreciated thankyou.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 August 2013):
 jealousy is not an emotion rooted in love. being jealous does not mean you love him.
being jealous means you are insecure in the relationship and your standing with him.
why do you think this is?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2013): My advice to you is the same as I'd give to children and adults alike in this situation, and that is if you're having a hard time seeing these two being as close as they are, then maybe its best to back off from the relationship for awhile to evaluate your options. You could also learn something from doing this because if he is single and she is single, if anything happened between them in the meantime or not, you will see where their loyalties lie. I would not advised asking them to break their friendship because that will give them a negative view of you and likely drive them even closer together anyway.
Even though you feel you can trust them both enough not to cross the boundaries, you are correct to feel this way because its impossible to know people enough to know what they would and wouldn't do for certain, no matter who they are, how close you are, or how long you've known them.
Its not much advice I've given you and someone may be able to offer more suitable or useful, but I can't tell you you're too young to take this kind of thing seriously because the fact of the matter is, people your age do develop feelings for someone strong enough to realise what it means.
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