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female
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41-50,
*lory
writes:He has failed to commit.I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for ten years, but now I like to take it further but he is not willing to.I have given him an ultimatum failure of which we separate but he is demanding sex first before he can propose,this is what he always says. Should I dump him? Or give in to his demand?I feel I have wasted 10 years of my life.Please advise Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 August 2007):
 Don't give in and stick to your word. Ten years do sound like enough time to know whether you want to commit to someone or not.
I may be wrong, but I have the suspicion he already knows he will be leaving you, but is trying his hand at a little sex before he goes away. Don't give in.
As to wasting ten years of your life, don't feel that way. You still have plenty of time to live. This were ten years of learning; now you know what not to do.
Take care.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): Glory,DO NOT give in to his demands!!!You have already wasted at least nine years of your life (one year is reasonable to be dating someone to get an idea of where it is - or is not heading). This man will not commit even if you were to date him for the next hundred years.DUMP his sorry a$$ immediately and once you have done so and gotten him out of your life, don't look back - and don't let him try to contact you or persuade you to change your mind!Once again, get rid of him, and then - onwards and upwards with your life, to meet someone worthy of you eventually - or if you don't meet someone else then to be happy living your own life, on your own terms. Better no relationship than a miserable one that makes you unhappy!
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