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writes: i am the type of person who would only be considered a friend or an acquaintance. i sometimes feel that i'm invisible because guys hardly ever notice me. i also have a hard time feeling comfortable around guys because i have always had trust issues after growing up in an environment where my biological father abused me and my mom. i am almost 20 and have no experience when it comes to dating. my question is how can i get guys to notice me more and how can i get a guy to ask me out?
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (21 February 2009):
 I was a wallflower growing up. I am still a very quiet person in new environments and new friends. Back then, what I found helpful for myself is when I am with a group of people who seemed to always hadno problems chatting up others was that I "watched" what they did. Then I said to myself, do I want to be like that particular girl, or this particular girl? etc etc etc. Then I watched the guys too, when they were with the girl and when they were with their guy friends. Then I decided that I did not want to be like that LOL . I felt it was not me.
Having said that, I have given this suggestion on similar questions on this site before. If you wanted to do a makeover so that guys/girls will see you better, try getting 4-5 of your female friends together to have a makeover party. Try different hairstyles, different fashion styles, different ways of carrying yourself (like, head high, sit straight, walk certain ways, etc etc etc). This would involve not just you as the main star, but all of you do the same. This may sound a bit teenager(ish), but it is good clean fun and everybody can enjoy themselves. Then take note of what you like when you look different, then work on it.
I actually did that for fun during college, as one of my friends said that I needed to learn to use make up and to walk more sophisticatedly (like a proper educated woman) lol. Everyone fell of their chairs laughing when I kept tripping over myself wearing high heels and tight skirt. LOL. Suffice to say that I did adopt some "fashion style" and abandoned makeup (except for a bit of eyeliner) because I just do not have the patience nor interest to do it LOL
Good luck and you'll do fine!
Cat
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