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writes:All, I haven't wrote the full story in my previous post on 13 August "He's betrayed me again and again, should I give him another chance?" Many thanks for some advices u gave. I just very complicated now. I really want to know how to end this relationship. I found it's very difficult for me because both, his family and mine, knew about our relationship. All my family members like him, and his family also like me too. Besides his betrayal, not faithful and lying to me, I noticed he has a lot of good points too such as, he loves my family, take care them well, and he seemed to show alot of care to me when I was sick or when I got any problem... When I'm down, he encouraged me... He also make alot of fun to me, my family and friends... sound like many things happened in the same time. I think both betrayal and care are together.. Beside this close relationship, we have business together. My sister and I live in the same house with him, and I live with him as a partner. Whenever he got sick, I always take a good care of him. Whatever he want, I always do for him (that might be my charactor, mostly I think of others than myself). If we live seperate, thing will not too complicate like this.. Hm..I think I'm really hard to make decision at this time. I want to end it, but I don't know where to start first... To be honest, I'm really hard to forget a happy time I had with him.. Really hard to forget it. But whenever I think of what he did to me, my tear drop down and so much hurt. Dispute inside my heart now... whenever I knew he lie or betray me, I never ever control myself. Sometime I hurt myself, and sometime I hurt him... know it's not a good solution to hit him or to hurt myself, but I really can't control myself. When he betrayed me, I first thing of my previouse love. I mean I used to act bad way to my ex too, but since I knew him i changed everything. I never lie him even a small thing, but different from him, even small he keep telling me a lie. I took a way my love and all trust. But I still cry in my heart because I still love him, and don't know what to do now...I got confuse through what he did now.He love me or not? If yes, y he always hurt me? I wonder why he take care me and my family too much? And y he introduce me to all his family and friends and took me to visit his homeland? As I knew, only one girl that he used to bring her home to see his mom, but she couldn't get along with her mom well, then they broke with this short relationship. He used to tell his friends about my good points. But first point he raise is I can get along with his family well and I have good heart.. Does it mean just that he love me? He seem to care me and my family so much. Or he did like this because he just want to achieve his goal only? (he couldn't start his business without me.)Hope I can get some advices from you.Many thanks
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reader, queen14  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 First of all, u have my respect 4 actually admitting wat ur doing wrong, know I no its painful but ur living a lie, love isn't supposed 2 b painful like that, u gotta love urself first this man doesn't deserve u or ur time stay away from him ppl like him only think of themselves n I no u don't need that so do urself a favor n move on best luck!
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