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writes:Hey all, My boyfriend and I are having an argument about mine and his social life. First, I have to give you a bit of background info. I sit at home all day with nothing to do, he works 2 jobs, I'm currently looking for a job, and waiting for school to start for the spring semester. I got a phone call from one of my friends (a girl) and she asked if I wanted to hang out. He says that he should be included. I don't think that when I'm hanging out with my friends that I should have to bring him along. I think that he should have his own friends, and do what he wants with them, so I can have a little bit of my own personal time with my friends. Can someone please tell me what to do in this situation? Oh and this happens all the time by the way. Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 February 2010):
You are right, he should be out with his own friends. And you should be able to hang out with your friends. I've never been out with my g/f's friends, because I appreciate that it's her own time to have fun and not have to worry about me. If he's wanting to spend too much time with you, that's not healthy. You both need space at times.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 It is no fun when he is there and you cannot be free to do or say anything to your g/f.
It is about girl's talk and boys are there as a lamp post only...LOL!
Everyone should have their own private time with their friends.Bringing along your fiance changes the whole equation.
There are times when you should be free to let your hair down and do your own thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): You should talk to him. I think you are completely right about both of you needing your own friends. If you guys don't have your own friends and personal time to be with your friends then you will lose who you are. He should want time to hang out with his friends.
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