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writes:Hey guys,I just broke it off with my gf of 2 years and for the past couple of days been feeling lots of emotions but the most I feel is guilt. My reasons for ending it were was her drinking issue, extreme neediness, insecuritys, controlling, jealous, and emotionally immature. She had unreasonable expectations which no man alive could ever meet and never let me have space to do things I wanted to do and is she did she would guilt trip me about it saying I cared more about *blank* then her. We went to counseling together to try to patch it up and for awhile things were good but we stopped going and it didn't take long for the bad parts to start rearing it's head in full force again. She always made it out like I was the bad guy and when we would try to have a discussion about it like adults she would just keep spining it around and exagerating my faults to the point I just stopped resisting and would just obey. Now i'm not saying i'm perfect I do have flaws and would be the first to admit them but if she spoke about me in one of her drunken rages you would think I was the biggest jerk in the world and she is the "victim". Now after 2 years of that you would think I was so happy right now to be out of it but no I'm quite sad. She was a creature of extremes either pleasent or unpleasent. It's those pleasent parts I'm gonna miss so terribly but I relize if i were to go back now I'd only be in the same boat again. I know I've broken her heart very badly and can't help but feel guilt but I look back and do believe I did all I could to make the relationship work and it's time to move on now. Anybody else who reads this I would like to hear of your expriences if you've broken up With someone with similair bad qualities. Thanks
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 March 2012):
 If you and she haven't figured out your compatibilities after two years (and assuming that you and she HAVE adequate compatibilities!).... then it's time to move on and get a NEW girl friend who meshes better with you....
You'll BOTH be better off for this....
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reader, cathysmith07 +, writes (20 March 2012):
 I've through to that and it hurts, saying sorry to each other is the best relief. Give her a chance to change and to grow.
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