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writes:Il apologize in advance if its a long question.Well heres the basics, im 16 and have been with my boyfriend for a little over 9 months. Ive never felt love like this towards anyone before, its kind of like i'd do anything to make sure he didnt get hurt, and i dont care what he looks like, i just want to spend every second i can with him.I guess your wondering wheres the problem?Well just over a year ago, around this time actually i was talking to a boy that my best mate liked. It was all secretive and involved going behind peoples backs, but it was thrilling. He used to see me walking around the school and we'd make eye contact and he'd wink and id smile whilst no one was looking. Id catch him watching me, and when i saw him id get all nervous. He would text me things like "because someone doesnt look gorgeous today" and stupid things that made me smile. He would ring me literally straight after school to ask me what lessons i had, and what i had done and if i had had a good day. Also if i told him i was going out with the girls and i would be home at 10:30, dead on 10:30 he would ring me to see if i had a good time. As you can guess my mate found out and she made me choose my best friends or him, so i chose my best friends and stopped talking to him.. Within two weeks he had a girlfriend, and i was left to get over not having anyone to text or to ring me to see if i was okay and had a good day. Then in febuary i got with my current boyfriend. I lost the feelings for this other boy around about december time and i have never really thought about him since. When i see him now i dont get the same butterfly feeling either. But then i have noticed that when we talk about him or someone mentions him i feel a glimmer of the excitement i used to feel when i was speaking to him. My boyfriend at the moment doesnt really ever have credit, and even though he does come down my house everyday, he doesnt take as much interest in my life, we do talk but usually its me asking him questions or just talking about my day. He would prefer to watch films and have a laugh.Is it wrong to miss him being like this with me?and to feel the excitement i used to feel towards him?thanks xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 November 2008):
I'd say this was perfectly natural.
You're stuck with a boyfriend that, although you love, doesn't have that connection with you or that spark you know you can have.
The bad news is that this really shows you that your current relationship will probably not last. Lovely though he probably is, if there is no spark then you are always going to be tempted elsewhere.
Plus the fact the thing you had with this other boy was naughty and forbidden, which always makes it more exciting.
Whether you split up with your boyfriend or just let the relationship run it's course is up to you.
But just keep your crush in your head and enjoy it. Crushes can be harmless mental fun if you just accept that it is all in your mind.
Perhaps your friend will go off this lad and would be ok with you going out with him.
Good Luck!! xx
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